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Stewardship of Talent: The Gifts of Christian Service
Romans 12:3-8

Chapter 12 marks the major theological shift in the Book of Romans. In chapters 1-11, Paul explains Christ’s work of redemption. In chapters 12-16, he exhorts us to live as a redeemed people. He begins with an emphasis on belief, then he moves to behavior; he portrays the principles then the practice; he writes about God’s revelation then our responsibility. The first division deals with doctrine; the second division deals with duty! After he announced God’s mercy in our lives, now he is ready to proclaim Christ’s mastery over our lives!

That is why chapter 12 begins with the little phrase “in view of God’s mercy.” Throughout the rest of the book, everything Paul commands us to do is in response to God’s mercy for us. This opening section of Romans 12 sets the stage for all of our responses to God’s mercy. Verses 1-2 tell us that God’s mercy compels us to a life of sacrifice. Just as Christ sacrificed his body for us on the cross, we are to be living sacrifices for him every day. Verses 3-8 tell us that God’s mercy compels us to a life of service. Just as Christ served us with his life and death, we are to serve him every day.

As we continue our little series on stewardship, I want to focus on verses 3-8 and explore how we are to use our talents and gifts to live a life of Christian service. This passage offers us a wellspring of wisdom about Christian service. Let’s look at three aspects of Christian service!

1.) Christian Service begins with Humility (3)
As Paul exhorts the Romans to respond to God’s mercy with active Christian service, he begins with a moral challenge of humility. He knew that their service to others would be utterly worthless if it was conducted in a spirit of pride, arrogance, or selfishness. Humility is vital for any type of service in Christ’s kingdom.

Paul practices what he is preaching when he says, “For by the grace given me I say to every one of you.” He refers to his own call to be an apostle as the basis for this command to serve with humility. He is not commanding them on the basis of his own knowledge, intellect, or skill; he is saying “because Christ has called me to be his apostle, I am telling you that Christian service begins with humility.

When he says “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought” he is referring to status. Status is meaningless when it comes to Christian service. No Christian should think that he or she is better than anyone else. Rather, all Christians should think of themselves with sober judgment—that is accurate thinking.

The reason for this is because God hasn’t given all Christians the same measure of faith. Since God has given different amounts of faith to different Christians, it is really unfair and inappropriate to make comparisons. Comparing Christians is like comparing apples and oranges. Therefore, there is no place in the Christian life or in Christian service to compare yourself with anyone else. No one should ever believe they are better than anyone else! Christian service always begins with humility!

A truly humble person is hard to find, yet God delights to honor such selfless people. Booker T. Washington, the renowned black educator, shortly after he took over the presidency of Tuskegee Institute in Alabama, was walking in an exclusive section of town when he was stopped by a wealthy white woman. Not knowing the famous Mr. Washington by sight, she asked if he would like to earn a few dollars by chopping wood for her. Because he had no pressing business at the moment, Professor Washington smiled, rolled up his sleeves, and proceeded to do the humble chore she had requested. When he was finished, he carried the logs into the house and stacked them by the fireplace. A little girl recognized him and later revealed his identity to the lady.

The next morning the embarrassed woman went to see Mr. Washington in his office at the Institute and apologized profusely. “It’s perfectly all right, Madam,” he replied. “Occasionally I enjoy a little manual labor. Besides, it’s always a delight to do something for a friend.” She shook his hand warmly and assured him that his meek and gracious attitude had endeared him and his work to her heart. Not long afterward she showed her admiration by persuading some wealthy acquaintances to join her in donating thousands of dollars to the Tuskegee Institute.

If Booker T. Washington had looked at the woman said, “Madam, do you know who I am?” or if he would have asserted his status as president of the Tuskegee Institute, he would not have had the opportunity to serve the woman, and thereby, would have missed out on thousands of dollars. Likewise, if we are to truly serve Jesus Christ and his kingdom we have to forget about social class, economic status, or past successes. We must think of ourselves with sober judgment and realize that anything we have is a gift from God. How humble are you? Do you possess enough humility to serve?

2.) Christian Service works as a Community (4-5)
After Paul asserts that Christian service begins with humility, he then tells the Romans that Christian service works as a community. Here he employs body language to explain how the church is to function and serve. Just as each one of us has one body with many different parts that serve many different functions, so Christ’s church is made up of a whole community of members who serve in many different roles and perform many different jobs. One member cannot perform all of the function nor should everyone in the community perform the same function.

Can you imagine if your body functioned like that? How well would you function if you had twelve ears and no toes? Well, you would be able to hear a lot, but you wouldn’t be able to walk. Can you imagine if you had 12 eyes and no fingers? You could see really well but you wouldn’t be able to pick anything up.

In March of 1981, President Reagan was shot by John Hinckley, Jr., and was hospitalized for several weeks. Although Reagan was the nation’s chief executive, his hospitalization had little impact on the nation’s activity. Government continued on. On the other hand, suppose the garbage collectors in this country went on strike, as they did not long ago in Philadelphia. That city was not only in a literal mess, the pile of decaying trash quickly became a health hazard. A three-week nationwide strike would paralyze the country. Who is more important–the President or a garbage collector? In the body of Christ, seemingly insignificant ones are urgently needed.

So it is with Christian service—we function as a community. Everyone has a place to serve and a part to play. God wants all of us to work together and fulfill our roles as the community of Christ. Our service should complement one another rather than competing or working against each other.

3.) Christian Service is determined by Grace and Giftedness (6-8)
Once Paul states that Christian service begins with humility and works as a community, he completes the section by affirming that it is determined by grace and giftedness. In verse 6 he tells us that God has given each of them spiritual gifts according to the grace given us. We do not choose our spiritual gifts; the Holy Spirit determines which gifts we have and the amount we possess. When we become believers in Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit endows us with supernatural gifts which we are to use to strengthen and serve God’s church. It is not our responsibility to acquire or choose our giftedness, but it is our duty to use our gifts for the glory of God. He wants us to be good stewards of the gifts he has given us.

In verses 7-8 he gives us seven examples of spiritual gifts so we would know what he is talking about. They are each accompanied by a challenge to use the gift. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but many people have these gifts that are mentioned. Do you have any of these gifts?

• Prophecy: This is the ability to receive and proclaim a message from God. Prophecy has two dimensions: foretelling and forthtelling. The former occurs when a prophet speaks about a future event. The later is speaking to strengthen, challenge, and comfort God’s people.

• Service: The gift of service encompasses a wide variety of activities such as organizing and performing activities which provide the needs of people in the church and/or community.

• Teaching: This is the ability to cause other people to learn. It includes the ability to research, organize, and present material in ways that are helpful to others.

• Encouraging: This is the ability to come alongside another with words of support, counsel, and motivation so that people will take actions and develop attitudes consistent with the Christian calling.

• Giving: This is the ability to acquire and disperse money and material resources to meet the needs of the church and community.

• Leadership: This is the ability to determine priorities, set goals, establish directions, influence others, and achieve results.

• Mercy: This is the ability to show great compassion for the sufferings and needs of people without judgment.

So, do you have one of these gifts? Are you being a good steward of what God has given you? How are you using your gifts? If you are faithfully using your gifts, keep up the good work! If you are not, let me make a few suggestions!

If you have the gift of service, do something for someone! If you have the gift of leadership, organize some people and start some sort of ministry. You don’t need my permission to do it! If have the gift of encouragement, send a card or a letter to someone who is going through a difficult time. If you have the gift of giving, write that check and add a few more zero’s to the end of it! If you have the gift of teaching, join the Sunday school team or start a Bible study group!

Maybe your gift isn’t on this list! It could be any number of other things! Ask God to reveal it to you, and then ask him to help you use it. Be a good steward of the gifts God has given you!

Several years ago, two students graduated from the Chicago-Kent College of Law. The highest ranking student in the class was a blind man named Overton and, when he received his honor, he insisted that half the credit should go to his friend, Kaspryzak. They had met one another in school when the armless Mr. Kaspryzak had guided the blind Mr. Overton down a flight of stairs.

This acquaintance ripened into friendship and a beautiful example of interdependence. The blind man carried the books which the armless man read aloud in their common study, and thus the individual deficiency of each was compensated for by the other. After their graduation, they planned to practice law together.

One had the gift of sight; the other had the gift of arms! They used their gift to bless each other. This is exactly how God designed his church to work. Each of us has a vital function. When one member neglects their gift, the body suffers, but when we all share our gifts with one another, we become what the body of Christ was meant to be!

I am generally not a fan of contemporary Christian music, but a few years ago I heard a song from the band Casting Crowns that I deeply appreciated. Let me conclude today by sharing the words of the chorus from their song “If We Are the Body”:

But if we are the Body
Why aren’t His arms reaching
Why aren’t His hands healing
Why aren’t His words teaching

And if we are the Body
Why aren’t His feet going
Why is His love not showing them there is a way
There is a way

Stewardship of Talent: A Good & Faithful Servant
Matthew 25:14-30

If you knew you were going to die next week, how many of you would make some preparations this week? That’s what I thought! Jesus was no exception. During the last week of his life he made some final preparations.

On Palm Sunday Jesus rode a donkey into Jerusalem amid a myriad of waving palm branches and triumphant shouts of “Hosanna in the highest!”—thus declaring his Messiahship to the crowds for the final time. On Monday, Jesus cleaned his house one last time by charging into the temple and overturning the moneychangers’ tables. On Tuesday morning, Jesus engaged in his final debates with the religious leaders. On Tuesday afternoon, while sitting in the Mount of Olives, Jesus preached his final sermon to his disciples. On Wednesday, Jesus took his final bath as a woman poured an expensive bottle of perfume over his head. On Thursday, Jesus ate his final meal. And on Friday, Jesus breathed his final breath!

The purpose of Jesus’ final sermon on Tuesday afternoon was to prepare his disciples for life and ministry without him. His disciples had asked him what would be the sign of his coming at the end of the age. So, Jesus gave them some instructions and told them some parables about what to do while they awaited his return.

Have you ever wondered about that? What are we supposed to do while we await Jesus’ return? Well, he answers that question for us in the parable of the talents! Listen to the story again!

Scene 1- “A Long Journey” (14a)
The parable begins with Jesus painting a picture of a wealthy man going on a long journey. While he is gone, he entrusts his entire property to three of his servants. He doesn’t tell them where he is going or when he will return, but he implies that he will return one day.

The “long journey” in this parable represents Jesus’ physical absence from his church. Since his ascension into heaven, he has been physically away from his people for the last 2000 years. Like the servants in the parable, we have no idea when he will return. It could be at 2:00 p.m. this afternoon or it could be another 2000 years until he comes back.

It is rather easy for us to forget that Jesus will return someday. He has been gone for so long and we’ve sort of gotten used to his physical absence. In spite of the fact that Jesus promised us that he would return, our experience makes us wonder if he really is coming back. As the days and years of our lives pass by with the ticking of the clock, it is easy to get lulled into a spiritual sleep.

One of the purposes of this parable is to wake us up from our spiritual slumber and make sure we are ready for Jesus’ return. Yes, he has been gone for a long time, but he is coming back! Do you believe it? Are you ready for it?

Scene 2- “Stewardship of Kingdom Resources” (14b-18)
Before the wealthy master departed for his journey, as I mentioned, he entrusts his property and resources to three of his servants. He delegates 5 talents to the first servant, 2 to the second, and 1 to the third. This master is quite wealthy! The word “talent” is a monetary term that was equivalent to able 15 years of wages for an average day laborer in the Ancient Near East. By today’s standards, one talent would amount to somewhere between $250,000 and $300,000. The NIV’s rendering “more than $1,000 is far too low.

All three servants are entrusted with an extraordinary amount of resources and there is an implied expectation that the servants will use these resources to expand the master’s property. Although the resources are distributed according to the individual servants’ ability, they are each responsible for what they were given. The stewardship of these resources is an enormous responsibility.

Just as the master’s long journey represents Jesus’ physical absence, the servants in this parable represent us (Jesus’ servants) and the talents symbolize our giftedness and abilities. The definition of our English word “talent” which literally means innate personal giftedness or skill actually originated with this parable. As in the parable, Jesus has endowed every one of us with special talents, gifts, skills, and abilities. While he is away on his long journey, he expects us to be good stewards of these resources by using them to expand his kingdom. What an incredible responsibility he has given us!

Not only has God endowed us with different talents, but he has also endowed us different amounts of talents. Two people may be talented runners, but one may be faster than the other. Two people may be gifted cooks, but one’s food might taste better than the other’s. God holds us responsible for the amount of talent he has given us, not the amount of talent he has given someone else. Regardless of what talents he has given us or how much of them we have, God expects us to be using them to expand his kingdom. He wants us to be good and faithful stewards of the talents he gave us.

So, let me ask you: What are your talents? What skills and abilities has God given you? Are you a strong leader? Are you good teacher? Are you gifted in organization or administration? Are you a skilled musician, artist, writer, builder, or crafter? Do you excel in compassion, hospitality, or generosity?

What talents has God given you, and more importantly, are you using them for the Lord? Are you being a faithful steward of the resources he has entrusted to you? Are you using your talents to expand Christ’s kingdom while he is away? How are you doing it?

Scene 3- “The Day of Reckoning” (19)
Well, just as we expected, the master returned from his long journey and he wanted to settle accounts with his servants. This is a day of reckoning when each of the servants appears before the master to give an account of what he did with the resources that were entrusted into his care. This is where we find out if the servants are faithful stewards.

This is exactly what will happen with us! Someday Jesus is going to return to the earth for a great day of reckoning. We will each appear before him to give an accounting of how we used the gifts, talents, and resources he has given us. When we look into Jesus’ eyes, what will we have to say for ourselves? Will you say, “Oh, I had a talent, but I never really used it!”? Will you say, “I guess I used my talents for my own gain instead of yours!”? Will you say, “Well, I knew I have a talent but I was too afraid to use it or the right opportunity never came along.”? Or will you be able to say, “Lord, thank you for the talents you gave me! It was a pleasure to serve you! Here is what I did with them!”? What will you say on the day of reckoning?

Scene 4- “Good and Faithful Servants” (20-23)|
As each of the servants appear before the master, we learn that the first two servants immediately made effective use of their entrusted amounts, probably setting up some kind of business and making a capital return that doubled the original investment: 5 talents turned into 10 talents and 2 talents turned into 4 talents. Although the actual amounts are different, the master delivers the same response to the first two servants, “Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!” The identical statement of praise to both servants indicates that the point of the parable is not the total amount earned but on faithful responsibility to live up to one’s potential and giftedness. The reward of earnings bestowed may differ, but both servants received more joy in the master’s presence and more responsibility in his kingdom. (Wilkins 807)

So it is with us today! Jesus isn’t nearly as interested in the amount of gain we make for his kingdom as he is with our stewardship of his kingdom resources and faithfulness in his kingdom service. All of our service in his kingdom is inherently valuable, whether in the sacred or secular realms or whether it receives a greater or lesser return.

Likewise, if we are faithful stewards and servants, we will gain the same rewards described here. We love receiving verbal praise and adoration from anyone, but can you imagine what it would be like to receive verbal praise from Jesus our Master, “Well done, good and faithful servant!”? Wow, how overwhelmed would we be to hear those words!

Also, we all enjoy a sense of satisfaction when we fulfill our responsibilities, but can you imagine the sense of satisfaction we will experience when Jesus says, “You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things!”? So many people today want the reward but they are not willing to fulfill their responsibility. They want the glory but want nothing to do with the grit it takes to get the glory. If we want to be in charge of many things, we must first be faithful with a few things. That’s the way God’s kingdom works! The reward for faithful service is more responsibility!

In addition to verbal praise and increased responsibility, faithful servants of Christ receive more joy in the master’s presence. Can you imagine what it would be like to hear Jesus say, “Come and share in my happiness!”? What a day that will be!

Scene 5- “A Wicked and Lazy Servant” (24-30)
In contrast to the first two servants, the third comes to the master with a different story: he hid his one talent in the ground and gave it back to the master without any return. The master responds with the dreadful words, “You wicked and lazy servant!” The charge of wickedness stems from his attitude toward his master, which in turn led to his laziness and bad stewardship. The fact that he perceives his master as a hard and unethical man (harvesting where he has not planted) shows that he does not really know his master and therefore caused him to be ambivalent toward the talent he received and apathetic about seeking to advance his master’s kingdom. This misperception produced alienation, fear, mistrust, and personal sloth. Had he truly loved his master, he would have been faithful instead of blaming his master for his lack of productivity.

The master shows his displeasure by accusing him of being so lazy that he didn’t even deposit the talent with the money-changers to earn a little bit of interest, which would have required minimal effort. Then the talent is taken away from him and given to the one having 10 talents; fulfilling the promise that the faithful will receive abundance. And finally the wicked and lazy servant is called “worthless” and is thrown into the darkness where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth.

As in other parables, the contrast is between those whose eternal destiny is salvation in the presence of the long-expected Son of Man and eternal damnation. The first two servants are true disciples; the third one is not. A person’s faithfulness is evidence as to whether he or she is truly one of Jesus’ own. True disciples prove it by being good stewards of the talents God has given them and faithfully working to expand Christ’s kingdom. (Wilkins 808)

Unfortunately, this wicked and lazy servant represents so many people in the world today. God has given us so much—more talents, gifts, and resources than we know what to do with, but all they do is blame God for what they don’t have. Their wrong attitude about God (God is mean or unethical or doesn’t care about them) results in excuses for disobedience, poor stewardship, and unfaithfulness. This type of thinking has grave consequences!

What is your view of God? Do you recognize that everything you have, including your talents, are gifts from God? Are you using them for him or for yourself? Don’t blame God for your laziness and lack of productivity. Don’t be like this wicked servant!

This parable teaches us that a correct understanding of God will bring about the productive investment of our lives. When we truly understand who Jesus is, what he has done for us, and that he will return one day, we will be motivated to be good stewards of the talents he has given us and be faithful servants of his kingdom. This should cause us to examine our lives! It should cause us to ask questions like: Am I really one of Jesus’ disciples? How do I show it? Am I using my talents to serve him? Am I faithfully attempting to expand his kingdom? And finally, if he returns today, will he say to me, “Well done, good and faithful servant!”?

Stewardship of Time: Balancing Work & Rest
Exodus 20:8-11; Deuteronomy 5:12-15

Once upon a time, there was a little girl named Goldilocks. She went for a walk in the forest. Pretty soon, she came upon a little house. She knocked and, when no one answered, she walked right in.

At the table in the kitchen, there were three bowls of porridge. Goldilocks was hungry. She tasted the porridge from the first bowl. “This porridge is too hot!” she exclaimed. So, she tasted the porridge from the second bowl. “This porridge is too cold,” she said. So, she tasted the last bowl of porridge. “Ahhh, this porridge is just right,” she said happily and she ate it all up.

While reading the story of Goldilocks and the three bears to my children, I couldn’t help but think about the human propensity to be out of balance. Our food is too hot or too cold, too spicy or too bland! Our clothes are too tight or too loose! Our house is either too big or too small. We either have too much money or not enough! Although most of us would say don’t have enough, the truth is that many of us have too much! Seldom do we ever experience Goldilocks’ sense of satisfaction when she ate Baby Bear’s porridge. Very rarely can we sit back and say, “Ah, just right!”

Similarly, people are often out of balance when it comes to time. We tend to be either too early or too late; in a mad rush or just waiting around! For instance, raise your hand if you were in a hurry before church this morning! Raise your hand if you had to wait for someone before church this morning! That’s what I thought! When was the last time you heard someone say, “Ah, I always have just the right amount of time?”

I believe that one of the primary reasons why people’s time is so out of balance is because they have ignored God’s pattern of work and rest. Last week we looked at Genesis 1 and discovered that God instilled rhythms of work and rest into his creation. Today I want to show you how God reaffirmed these creation rhythms in his Law and reflect on their significance for our stewardship of time now.

Keeping the Sabbath Holy
Did you know that the Ten Commandments are recorded in two places in Scripture: Exodus 20 and Deuteronomy 5. In Exodus we find the story of the original giving of the Ten Commandments. After God delivered the Israelites from 400 years of slavery in Egypt Moses led them through the Red Sea, they came to the sandy foot of Mount Sinai. There Moses ascended the jagged mountain and received the Ten Commandments from the Lord. When he descended, he delivered God’s Law to the people of Israel.

In Deuteronomy, which actually means “second law”, Moses recounts the Ten Commandment while the Israelites are camped along the east bank of the Jordan River. The people were reminded of God’s mighty deeds and Holy Law before they were to cross the Jordan and take possession of the Promised Land. They needed this spiritual renewal before they could take another step of faith.

The Sinai command to keep the Sabbath holy is the fourth in the listing of the ten revealed to Moses. Notice that the Fourth Commandment in Exodus and Deuteronomy are nearly identical in the two listings but the reasons supporting the commands differ! The reason given in Exodus is that this is what God did: God worked six days and quit working on the seventh. The reason given in Deuteronomy is that when God’s people were slaves in Egypt it was work, work, work—incessant, unrelieved work; they must never themselves perpetuate such oppression; they must quit work each seventh day so that their slaves and livestock and children will get a day off.

The Exodus reason supports a life of loving God—Sabbath keeping is a way to get in on what God does; the Deuteronomy reason supports a life of loving people—Sabbath keeping is a way to love your neighbor, a simple act of justice. (Peterson 111)

Let’s take a closer look at these two passages!

Exodus 20:8-11
The Exodus command is to remember the Sabbath is backed up by the precedent of God, who rested on the seventh day. When we remember the Sabbath and rest on it we enter into and maintain the rhythm of creation. We keep time with God! Sabbath keeping preserves and honors time as God’s gift of holy rest: it erects a weekly bastion against the commodification of time, against reducing time to money, reducing time to what we can get out of it, against leaving no time for God or beauty or anything that cannot be purchased. It is a defense against the hurry that desecrates time. (Peterson 111)

This is so true, when we reduce time to money or what we can get out of it, we desecrate God’s gift. When we are poor stewards of time, we do not love God. Like a child who gets a birthday gift that he does not like, throws a fit, and smashes the toy against the floor, when we either work too much or rest too much, we destroy God’s gift of time and show a lack of appreciation for it! God wants us to love him with six days of good work and one day of good rest and worship!

Deuteronomy 5:12-15
The Deuteronomy command to observe the Sabbath is backed by a sense of social justice in the neighborhood. We remember the Sabbath and rest on it in order to enter into and maintain the freedom of creation, to experience and share God’s deliverance and love for others. Sabbath keeping preserves and honors time as God’s gift of holy freedom: it erects a weekly bastion against the lethargic procrastination that breeds oppression, that let’s injustice flourish because we are not attending in holy obedience and adoring love to the people and animals and things God has placed around us. (Peterson 111)

When we are poor stewards of time, we are not loving people. Other people are affected by our hurry and procrastination. Other people are affected when we work too much or too little. How many families have been torn apart because time abuse? Think of the parent who oppresses their family financially because they refuse to work! Think the parent who oppresses his family emotionally because of he is always at work and is never home!

A first grader became curious because her father brought home a briefcase full of papers every evening. Her mother explained, “Daddy has so much to do that he can’t finish it all at the office. That’s why he has to bring work home at night.” “Well then,” asked the child innocently, “why don’t they put him in a slower group?”

God wants us to love people by balancing six days of good work and one day of good rest and worship!


Balancing Work, Rest, and Worship

Let’s think about work, rest, and worship for a few minutes!

Work
We cannot understand either the character or significance of Sabbath apart from work and workplace. Work doesn’t take us away from God; it continues the work of God through us. Sabbath and work are not in opposition; Sabbath and work are integrated parts of an organic whole. Either apart from the other is crippled. (Peterson 115)

Martin Luther, we are told, said this about work: “The maid who sweeps her kitchen is doing the will of God just as much as the monk who prays—not because she may sing a Christian hymn as she sweeps but because God loves clean floors. The Christian shoemaker does his Christian duty not by putting little crosses on the shoes, but by making good shoes, because God is interested in good craftsmanship.”

God wants us to work hard and work well. If you are a farmer, may you have a dairy of distinction in God’s eyes! If you are a teacher, may you be teacher of the year in God’s eyes! If you are a nurse, care for people as if every one of them was Jesus! Whatever work you do, do it for the glory of God!

Rest
According to a Greek legend, in ancient Athens a man noticed the great storyteller Aesop playing childish games with some little boys. He laughed and jeered at Aesop, asking him why he wasted his time in such frivolous activity.

Aesop responded by picking up a bow, loosening its string, and placing it on the ground. Then he said to the critical Athenian, “Now, answer the riddle, if you can. Tell us what the unstrung bows implies.”

The man looked at it for several moments but had no idea what point Aesop was trying to make. Aesop explained, “If you keep a bow always bent, it will break eventually; but if you let it go slack, it will be more fit for use when you want it.”

People are also like that. That’s why we all need to take time to rest. Shouldn’t we take His example seriously? Start by setting aside time to relax physically and renew yourself emotionally and spiritually. You will be at your best for the Lord if you have taken time to loosen the bow.

Worship
Storyteller Garrison Keillor comments, “Sunday feels odd without church in the morning. It’s the time of week when we take our bearings, and if we miss it, we’re just following our noses.”

Two weeks ago I preached a portion of this message at the Franklin Carriage house. Afterwards, an elderly woman told me a fascinating story about her grandparents. They were family dairy farmers and devout Christians. They never missed church and always reserved Sunday as a day of rest. Other than feeding their animals and milking their cows, they didn’t do any other farm work.

One spring, the weather was especially terrible and all of the farmers were having difficulty getting their seeds planted. They began to panic because they thought they might not get their crops planted in time. The first day decent enough that the farmers could get a horse into the fields just happened to be a Sunday. When her grandfather came in from his chores, he notified his wife that he wouldn’t be going to church that morning because he had to get his seed planted. He ordinarily wouldn’t have done this, but he was really feeling the pressure.

His wife didn’t argue with him, but as she walked out the door on her way to church by herself, she very calmly whispered, “You’ll regret this!” He worked hard that day, and by evening, all of his seed was planted. He felt good about his decision until the next morning when he went to the barn and discovered that his best horse was dead. He never missed another day of church the rest of his life!

Hard work needs to be balanced with consistent rest and worship. Our bodies need weekly rest and our souls need weekly worship. God gave us these laws for our good, not his! He gave us this pattern to help us be good stewards of his time!

The “Coronary and Ulcer Club” lists the following rules for members…

1. Your job comes first. Forget everything else.
2. Saturdays, Sundays, and holidays are fine times to be working at the office. There will be nobody else there to bother you.
3. Never say “no” to a request. Always say “yes.”
4. Accept all invitations to meetings, banquets, committees, etc.
5. All forms of recreation are a waste of time.
6. Never delegate responsibility to others; carry the entire load yourself.
7. No matter how many jobs you already are doing, remember you always can take on more.

The fourth commandment tells us to remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. For most people today, Sunday makes the most sense for honoring the Sabbath. Have you set apart one day a week for rest and worship? Is your life balanced between rest and work?

Stewardship of Time: Recovering the Rhythms of Creation
Genesis 1:1-2:3

A number of years ago when I was youth pastoring in Massachusetts, our youth group acquired a djembe, an African drum, to accompany our praise and worship services. We thought one of the kids would either know how to play it or be interested in learning how to play it, but when no one was willing to do either, I decided that I would give it a shot. If you can play any sort of drum, you can play a djembe, and I said proudly, “How hard can it be?” Besides, I was going to be taught by the world’s greatest music teacher, my wife.

After she taught me the basics about how to hold and strike the djembe, I was ready to rock and roll, or so I thought. Over the next few weeks I practiced regularly. I practiced at church, at home, and even in the car when Jennifer drove. I gave it an honest try, but it was to no avail. Eventually, I recognized that I wasn’t cut out for percussion and I gave it up. The exacerbated looks on my wife’s face helped me come to that realization. She was much too kind and far too committed to grammatical correctness to ever say it, but her face communicated, “Give it up baby! You just ain’t got no rhythm!”

Do you ever feel that way in life? Do you ever feel out of rhythm? Do you ever feel like your life is too fast or too slow? Do you feel out of step or off the beat?

Some people are constantly frustrated because they have too much time on their hands. They complain because they are bored and can’t find anything to do. If you call them up and ask them what they are doing, they say, “Nothing, just killing time!”

On the other hand, some people are constantly frustrated because they never have enough time. They complain because they are always rushing around and have a hard time fulfilling all of their commitments. If you call them up and ask them what they are doing, they say, “I’m sorry, I can’t talk right now; I’m on my way out the door!” That is, if you can even get them on the phone!”

Whereas most people are inclined to believe that they are out of rhythm because of either an abundance or lack of time, the problem is actually with us. God created time and gave it to us to manage. Contrary to popular opinion, time is not ours. It is God’s! He has called us to be good stewards of his time.

The Bible opens with two creation stories, set by side in Genesis 1 and 2. These two chapters have been studied meticulously for two thousand years by Christian and Jewish scholars, and their collective insights stagger our imaginations. But what is often missed in the cascade of exegetical brilliance is how skillfully these texts prepare and lead us as ordinary working Christians into better lives today. Far too many Christians reduce these stories to only a defense of creation against evolution that they fail to see any other significance for today.

These two creation stories, set at the entrance of our Bibles, are primary texts for living in the time and place that we wake up each morning. Genesis 1 focuses on God’s creation gift of time and Genesis 2 focuses on God’s creation gift of place. As we consider the topic of stewardship of time, I hope to center our attention on Genesis 1and help us to recover the rhythms of creation for our lives today. (Eugene Peterson, Christ Plays in Ten-Thousand Places, 63)

The Creation Gift of Time (Genesis 1:1)
So, let’s look at Genesis 1 again! The first three words of the Bible set creation in time. Before we know what God did, we know when he did it—“In the beginning”—he created the heavens and earth in the beginning! Now no one knows exactly when the world began. Even among Christian scientists, theologians, and scholars there is considerable debate. Depending on whether you take the Young Earth or Old Earth Theory, God created the world somewhere between 6,000 and 4.5 billion years ago. Personally, I don’t think it is nearly as important to know precisely when God created the world as it is to simply know that God created the world and set it in time.

God gave us the gift of time while we are here on earth and he wants us to enjoy it and be good stewards of it. God embedded rhythms into his creation to help us be good stewards of time. Have you ever noticed how creation functions in rhythms—consistently repeated patterns of time—60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, 52 weeks in a year, and so on! One of my favorite aspects of time in creation is the changing of the four major seasons. As soon as you start to get bored with one season it changes and adds beauty and variety to life.

Don’t you just love the new birth of springtime? The brown tree limbs awake from their slumber and bloom into glorious glades of green; flowers arise from the ground and stretch their multi-colored hands across the ground; songbirds return to fill the air with marvelous melodies!

Don’t you just love the growth of summer? The sight of corn rows rising out of the dust; the smell of a freshly cut hayfield or golf course; the taste of homegrown fruits and vegetables from the garden; the rush of cool water encompassing your body when you plunge into a mountain stream!

Don’t you just love the autumn harvest? The hillside foliage bursting with brilliant colors; the sound of choppers in the field; the smell of a Cortland apple pie baking in the oven; the early evening sunset shimmering across the lake!

Don’t you just love the winter sleep? When all nature around us rests and that first snowfall glistens over the ground; when you hear the crackle of the fire and watch the flames dance in the woodstove; when your boots lock into those skis and you feel the icicles form on your nose hairs as you soar down the slopes! Yes, these are all parts of God’s gift of time! Each day of creation gave us a different rhythm to enjoy!

The Creation Rhythms of Time (Genesis 1:3-2:3)
All of these rhythms are embedded in the creation order as described in Genesis 1. Even the structure of Genesis 1 is rhythmic. The creation account is arranged in a sequence of seven days. Six times a segment of creation work is introduced with the phrase, “And God said…” and six times is concluded with the phrase, “And there was evening and morning…” followed by the number of the day, one through six.

But the seventh day is treated differently and that difference sets it off for special emphasis and attention. Instead of the number being in the concluding phrase, it is in the introductory: “And on the seventh day.” This number seven is then repeated twice more in successive sentences. So, “seventh” is repeated three times, giving this seventh day an emphasis far beyond that of the first six.

So, here is what we notice: God’s work of creation is revealed to us in a rhythmic pattern—1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 7, 7. There are two sets of three days each of creation activity. The first set of three gives form to the pre-creation chaos of verse 2; the second set of three fills the pre-creation emptiness. These two sets of creation days, days 1-3 forming the “without form” and days 4-6 filling the “void,” are then followed by the seventh day of creation rest in triple emphasis. As we assimilate Genesis 1, we find ourselves “keeping time”: one two three, four five six, seven seven seven! (Peterson 67)

We are created to live rhythmically in the rhythms of creation. We are created to live in the patterns of days, weeks, months, seasons, and years. There is nothing we can do to speed time up or slow it down, but we can certainly embrace the rhythms God has placed in nature and inside us. Probably the most important rhythm we see here is the balanced pattern of work and rest. God has shown us how he wants us to use the time: six days of work and one day of rest per week.

I believe that one of the chief reasons why so many people’s lives are so messed up today is that they are out of sync with God’s creation rhythms. They are not good stewards of the time God has given them. Some people make the mistake of ignoring God’s rhythm of work. They refuse to follow God’s pattern of six days of work and then wonder why they suffer financially or lack a sense of purpose and fulfillment in life.

Other people make the opposite mistake by ignoring God’s rhythm of Sabbath worship and rest. They refuse to follow God’s pattern of one day a week being set apart for worship and rest and they wonder why they are always stressed out, filled with anxiety, and lack a sense of peace in life. This often leads to relationship problems and say things like, “I just don’t see God working in my life!”

So, consider your own life for a minute! Are you in step with God’s creation rhythm of work, worship, and rest? Are you working? Are you resting? Are you worshipping?

Desecrations of Time
Before I conclude today, I want to briefly discuss the twin enemies of God’s creation rhythms: hurry and procrastination. Have you ever noticed that God is never in a hurry? Have you ever noticed that God never procrastinates? Even when Jesus lived on earth, he was never in a hurry nor did he ever procrastinate. Both of these are violations of God’s nature and desecrations of his creation rhythm. Listen to what Eugene Peterson says:

The understanding and honoring of time is fundamental to the realization of who we are and how we live. Violations of sacred time become desecrations of our most intimate relations with God and one another. Hours and days, weeks and months and years, are the very stuff of holiness. Among the many desecrations visited upon the creation, the profanation of time ranks near the top, at least among North Americans. Time is the medium in which we do all our living. When time is desecrated, life is desecrated. The most conspicuous evidences of this desecration are hurry and procrastination. Hurry turns away from the gift of time in a compulsive grasping for abstractions that it can possess and control. Procrastination is distracted from the gift of time in a lazy inattentive or by a procrastinating inattentiveness to the life of obedience and adoration by which we enter the “fullness of time.” Whether by a hurried grasping or by a procrastinating inattention, time is violated! (65)

Hurry
When I think about hurry, the chorus of that old Alabama country song comes to mind: “I’m in a hurry to get things done, I rush and rush until life’s no fun. All I really got to do is live and die, but I’m in a hurry and don’t know why!”

Do you ever feel like that? Like your always in a hurry and don’t know why? We certainly live in a culture that is always in a rush. Hurry is a desecration of God’s gift and rhythm of time! How about you? How often do you find yourself in a hurry?

Procrastination
I have a friend (whose identity will remain hidden) who wears a tee shirt with a very simple and ironic message on the front of it. It says: Procrastinators Unite: Tomorrow!

Do you ever find yourself saying, “Tomorrow!” When we procrastinate our responsibilities, we desecrate God’s gift and rhythm of time. Oftentimes we wind up being in a hurry because we have procrastinated. Are you a procrastinator?

God created time and gave it to us as a gift. He instilled beautiful rhythms of time in us and the created order. These rhythms reflect his very nature and provide the pattern for abundant life: Work, worship, rest! Work, worship, rest! How well do you keep the rhythm? Are you a good steward of the time that God has given you?

I want to ask you to do something! Sometime this week, take your Bible and read through Genesis 1 again. Read it out loud several times in a row and try to keep the verbal rhythm! Let the pattern of the words sink into your mind and soul! Then, on a sheet of paper, write down some ways that you are a good steward of time and some ways you are a bad steward of time. Finally, pray and ask God to help you maintain the areas where you are strong and improve the areas where you are weak, especially if you are prone to hurry or procrastination!

And may we always be thankful for the time God has given us and use it to his glory!

Stewardship & Kingship: Knowing our Place in the World
Psalm 24:1-2

J.R.R. Tolkien, in his epic trilogy The Lord of the Rings, explores antithetical relationship between stewardship and kingship. On one hand, there is a character named Denethor, who is in the position of steward of Gondor. He is the temporary ruler of Gondor in the absence of the proper king, but he has grown corrupt and weak-minded. On the other hand, the character Aragorn is the rightful heir to the throne of Gondor, but at the beginning of the trilogy, he hides this identity and pretends to be a ranger named Strider.

When Aragorn rises to power and is ready to take his proper place as king, Denethor is reluctant to give up his ownership of the kingdom. He confused the role of steward and king and it eventually led to his downfall. The inhabitants of Gondor learned that there is a major difference between a stewardship and kingship. A king has ultimate power and authority over his kingdom; a steward is a temporary manager of someone else’s resources. When a steward tries to assume the role of the king, it always spells disaster.

I believe there are many people in our world today who confuse the roles of steward and king with their lives. Many of us have been taught that we are kings of our individual lives. We believe that we have ultimate power and authority over our lives. We believe that what we have and have worked for is ours. Many of us have forgotten that God is the rightful king of our lives and we are merely stewards of his resources. Psalm 24 counteracts this mentality by reminding us that God is the only and rightful king of the universe!

The unifying theme throughout the psalm is the worship of God the king. The opening verses (1-2) establish the foundation of God’s kingship in his creation of the world. The second part of the psalm specifies the conditions that must be met by those who would worship the king of creation. The third part celebrates the kingship of God in military language, having associations with the Ark of the Covenant, which symbolized God’s sovereign presence in battle. Thus, this psalm was most likely composed as a hymn of praise to God for a great military victory—celebrating the fact that God is the king of the whole earth.

As we consider the difference between stewardship and kingship today, I want to focus on just the first two verses. The two opening lines of the hymn praise the Lord for his establishment of the world and his ownership of everything in it. These two verses provide a powerful corrective to the way so many people today undervalue God and overvalue themselves. Let’s examine these verses more closely!

God Owns Everything (1a)
The dramatic declaration at the beginning of this hymn of praise sets us straight as to who is the king and who is the steward. Make no mistake about it—God is the sovereign king over the whole universe and everything in it belongs to him.

In verse 1 David uses a common feature of Hebrew poetry called synonymous parallelism to describe the breadth of God’s ownership. He uses the term “earth” in the first line and “world” in the second line. They both refer to the vastness of God’s creation. The phrase “everything in it” distinguishes God’s ownership of every inanimate and impersonal material object in the universe. This includes everything from the sun, moon, and planets that illumine the sky to every mountain, hill, tree, and river, on earth. This includes everything from the largest star to the smallest quark!

The largest known star is VY Canis Majoris; a red hypergiant star in the constellation Canis Major, located about 5,000 light-years from Earth. University of Minnesota professor Roberta Humphreys recently calculated its upper size at more than 2,100 times the size of the Sun. Placed in our Solar System, its surface would extend out past the orbit of Saturn. Light takes more than 8 hours to cross its circumference!

You chemistry majors know that a quark is an elementary particle and a fundamental constituent of matter. Quarks combine to form composite particles called hadrons, the most stable of which are protons and neutrons, the components of atomic nuclei. This means that quarks are even smaller than atoms!

When the text says “everything” it means everything! God owns absolutely everything in the universe!

God Owns Everyone (1b)
In the second line, David employs the phrase “all who dwell in it” to deepen his description of God’s sovereignty and ownership over his creation. This phrase refers to every living creature and person in existence. This includes everyone from the richest to the poorest person in the world. This includes the child who was just conceived in the mother’s womb to the oldest person in the world. By the way, the world’s current oldest person is Kama Chinen. This Japanese woman is who will turn 115 on May 10, 2010 if she can just hang in there for another week or so! It also includes everyone from Adam, the first human being to ever walk on the face of the earth to last person who will live here.

God Created Everything (2)
Once David declares that everything and everyone in the world belongs to God, he goes on to explain why. God owns everything and everyone because he created everything and everyone! Verse 2 says that he founded the earth upon the seas and established it upon the waters. This is not saying that the earth actually floats on some sort of terrestrial ocean. Rather, using poetic language, this verse refers back to Genesis 1 where we have a picture of how God created, established, and ordered everything in the world. This language recalls the act of creation in which God summoned the dry land to rise from the watery surface. The earth is portrayed as having a foundation like a large cathedral built to the glory of God. He is Lord over all the works of his hands, putting everything in its rightful place, including human beings!

Do you remember where God originally placed Adam and Eve? That’s right, the Garden of Eden? Do you remember whose garden Eden was? That’s right, it was God’s! Eden was God’s garden because he created it, but he gave Adam and Eve the responsibility of being stewards of the garden. They were to tend, work, and rule over the garden, and in return, God blessed them with everything they needed for a fulfilling physical and spiritual life.

The problem came when they confused the roles of stewardship and kingship. They were merely stewards of the garden, but the serpent deceived them into believing that they were kings of the garden. They usurped God’s authority and assumed the role of king when they took ownership of what did not belong to them. When they ate the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil they lost the blessings of the Garden of Eden. God reminded them that he is the only king of the universe!

This is exactly what happens to us today when we, the stewards of the earth, usurp God’s authority and set ourselves up as kings of the earth. When we act like everything and everyone is ours, we play the part of king rather than steward. As God did with Adam and Eve in the garden, God has ways of reminding us that we are not kings and that we don’t own the earth. Every time there is an earthquake, hurricane, or tornado, God reminds us of how little power we have over nature. Every time there is an economic collapse, God reminds us of how little control we actually have over our money. Every time we lose a loved one, God reminds us that he is the giver and taker of life, not us!

So, let me ask you: When do you tend to forget that we are merely stewards instead of kings? What areas of your life do you tend to act like a king instead of a steward? Where you need to be reminded that God is the owner of everything and that we are simply temporary stewards of his resources?

1.) The Environment
One area where many people confuse roles of stewardship and kingship is the environment. On one hand, God is the only king of the earth. He alone can change the weather and manipulate the wind and waves. On the other hand, he has charged us to be good stewards of his creation, and it is amazing how many people minimalize this responsibility. It is particularly sad when Christians are more interested in disputing the science behind global warming than they are about reducing the amount of trash that destroys our planet. I don’t understand all the details about global warming, but I do know that the amount of trash we put in the land, water, and air cannot be good for God’s creation.

I believe this mentality stems from an attitude of ownership and entitlement toward the earth. I have heard people say, “It’s my land, I can do whatever I want with it.” “It’s my property, and it’s nobody else’s business what I do with it!” “The environment isn’t my problem, it’s someone else’s problem.” Do you think these attitudes are glorifying to God or his creation?

The earth in which we live is a gift from God’s from God’s own hand, and it is our responsibility to take care of it. God has called us to be stewards of his creation! Are you taking care of your responsibility? What steps are you taking to conserve energy? What changes are you making to reduce waste, trash, and pollution? The earth is the Lord’s; what is your attitude toward God’s creation?

2.) Church
Another area where people tend to play the role of king rather than steward is church. It is natural that the longer we are members of a particular local church, the more we tend to take ownership of it. This is true of both pastors and parishioners. It certainly isn’t wrong to care deeply about your local church, but we must always remember that every church belongs to God. It never belongs to any individual or group!

I have seen people in some churches who take so much ownership that they become hostile toward new people and they never let anyone else do anything. Some people take so much ownership that they balk anyone who would even suggest changing something. Likewise, I have seen some pastors who believe the church belongs to them and they shepherd their people like tyrannical dictators. Regardless of who we are, how long we have been here, or what we like or dislike, we must always remember that the church belongs to God! We are just stewards of his church!

3.) Family
Family is probably the most delicate issue of all when it comes to stewardship. Many people develop a belief that their family belongs to them. We tend to go through life thinking that our spouse and our children belong to us, but they don’t! They belong to God!

I think parents especially struggle with this when their children finish high school. God entrusts them to us to raise for eighteen years, and then the day comes when they leave for college, get married, or simply move away for some other reason! This is the real test of whether we see ourselves as stewards or kings. Parents who act as kings refuse to let their children go! They try to manipulate their children into doing what they want them to do, even if God is leading them somewhere else. Parents who act as stewards thank God for the wonderful opportunity he has given them, but they are willing to trust God enough to turn them back over to him.

Think about your children for a minute! Do you parent like a king or a steward? Do you act like your kids belong to you or to God? Remember, everyone who dwells in the world belongs to God!

I suppose the greatest test of whether we believe we are a king or steward of our family is how we respond when they die. If your spouse or one of your children passes away and you respond with anger or bitterness toward God, you probably see yourself as a king. I know many people who shake their fists at God and say, “How could you do this to me? How could you take him away from me? Why would you let her go like that?” When we say things like this, we deny that they really belonged to God in the first place and assert that we are wiser or more compassionate than God.

Contrarily, when you lose a loved one and respond by saying, “The Lord gives and takes away! Blessed be the name of the Lord!” you probably see yourself as a steward. When you simply thank God for the years you were able to enjoy with that person, you probably understand the difference between stewardship and kingship.

One of the most powerful sermons I have ever heard was preached by Dr. E.V. Hill, the late pastor of the Mt. Zion Missionary Baptist Church in Los Angeles. The sermon was preached in 1987 and is titled “My Wife’s Death in Biblical Perspective.” His text was Job 1:21, “The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.” Throughout the sermon he refers to his wife with the name he called her, “Baby.” He explains at the beginning of the sermon that he did not choose to preach her funeral to display special strength; rather, he said, “I stand fulfilling a task my member asked of me.” His wife, one of his church members, asked him to preach her funeral so he did so. Toward the end, he takes up “the Lord taketh away” making the important point that a sign of Christian maturity is being able to say “Blessed be the name of the Lord” not only when the Lord gives but also when He takes away.

The reality is that none of us really own anything. Everything that we ever had, have now, or will have sometime in the future belongs to God. Whether it is his land, his church, his family, or something else, let us never forget that we are mere stewards who are temporarily managing God’s resources. If you really believed that the earth is the Lord’s and everything in it, how would it change your view of life? Do you see yourself as a king or as a steward? Do you know your rightful place in the world?

Wisdom & Sex: A Highway to Hell or a Freeway to Fulfillment?
Proverbs 5:1-23

Maintaining sexual purity is one of the premier challenges of life! It is such an important issue that Solomon deals with the topic 5 times within the first 9 chapters of Proverbs. Like many of the lectures in Proverbs, this section begins with a call for one’s attention. In the first two verses of the chapter he challenges us to listen up and pay close attention to his advice on the relationship between wisdom and sex. He presents two very different roads to take: one is a highway to hell and the other is a freeway to fulfillment!

As we examine this chapter, let me remind you that Solomon wrote Proverbs for the young men of Israel. That is why he addresses this advice to his son and warns against the advances of an adulterous woman. Even though this chapter was specifically written for young men, it certainly applies to both men and women, young and old! Let’s take a look at these two roads and see where they lead!

1.) Sex outside Marriage is a Highway to Hell (3-14)
Solomon moves without a pause into his warning against the whiles of sexual immorality. Although he pictures an adulterous woman leading a man astray, the warning certainly applies to both sexes. He begins with some graphic images about how immorality begins and ends. The adulterous’ lips drip with honey, the sweetest substance in the ancient world, and her words are smoother than olive oil, the smoothest item in an Israelite household. Her flattery is designed to inflate the young man’s ego and signal her availability, opening the way for him to turn his thoughts into action.

The encounter may seem sweet and smooth at first, but it ends in bitterness and sharpness. Gall was a poisonous herb with an intensely bitter taste that was very common in ancient Palestine. Sexual immorality is like a bitter poison. Likewise, an encounter with the adulterous will leave you feeling slashed by a double-edged sword.

Solomon hit the nail on the head! Sexual immorality often begins with sweet and smooth words, but it always ends in bitterness and pain. Has anyone ever made a pass at you with flattery words? Don’t fall for it! Beware of sweet and smooth words!

If you are a man, beware of the woman who stokes your need for significance. Be cautious when she talks about your fine-looking face, mammoth muscles, stunning sense of humor, prestigious positions, or astounding achievements! I guarantee that you are not nearly as handsome, strong, funny, or good as her exaggerations! Look beyond her masquerade and see her motives!

If you are a woman, beware of the man who strokes your desire for security. Be careful when he mentions the beauty of your eyes, the flow of your hair, or the brilliance of your mind! I guarantee that he is not thinking about your eyes, hair, or brains! Look beyond his pretense and see his real purpose! Sexual immorality always begins well, but it never ends well!

Proverbs often warns us to judge things by their outcome rather than their beginning. Accepting an invitation to illicit lust will lead a person to the grave. The Hebrew word translated as “grave” is “Sheol” which can also be translated as “the place of the dead” or “hell.” Thus, the heading: sex outside of marriage is a highway to hell. This is primarily a metaphor for spiritual death, but in some cases it actually has literal implications. There are numerous examples from the ancient and modern world where sexual immorality lead directly to physical death.

Just as sexual immorality leads to spiritual and physical death; verse 6 says it leads to crooked paths in life. How often does sexual immorality lead to moral confusion in other areas? Whether it is premarital or extramarital sex, how many lies have to be told to keep it covered up? Like the adulterous that cannot tell the difference between right and wrong, someone who sinks into sexual immorality becomes morally confused that they often try to justify their actions. They ignore God’s standards and pave their own path through life.

Solomon is right again! The costs of momentary pleasure in sexual immorality are far too high! God designed sex to be acted upon within the bonds of marriage. If you ever find yourself contemplating premarital or extramarital sex, get rid of those thoughts as fast as you can! Whatever you do, don’t go looking for lust; and if it finds you, run the other way. The cost is too high! It’s not worth it!

You country music fans may remember that Garth Brooks sang a song that illustrates how sexual immorality can lead to physical death. Do you know which one? It goes like this:

Papa drove a truck nearly all his life, You know it drove mama crazy being a trucker’s wife

The part she couldn’t handle was the being alone, I guess she needed more to hold than just a telephone

Papa called Mama each and every night, Just to ask her how she was and if us kids were alright

Mama would wait for that call to come in, When Daddy’d hang up she was gone again

Well it was bound to happen and one night it did, Papa came home and it was just us kids

He had a dozen roses and a bottle of wine, If he was lookin’ to surprise us he was doin’ fine

I heard him cry for Mama up and down the hall, Then I heard a bottle break against the bedroom wall

That old diesel engine made an eerie sound, When Papa fired it up and headed into town

Well the picture in the paper showed the scene real well, Papa’s rig was buried in the local motel

The desk clerk said he saw it all real clear, He never hit the brakes and he was shifting gears

Mama was a looker, Lord, how she shined, Papa was a good’n, But the jealous kind

Papa loved Mama, Mama loved men, Mama’s in the graveyard, Papa’s in the pen

In verses 7-8 Solomon begins a new section with a fresh appeal to listen carefully. Do not turn away from my words, but do turn away from the immoral woman, he urges. If you put yourself on the path of temptation by loitering at the door of her house, he warns that you will surely fall. It is better to break off contact completely.

After this fresh plea to heed his warning, he offers a compelling litany of losses that come with sexual immorality. In verse 9 he says that immorality will cost you your strength. All the effort exerted in continuing such a relationship and keeping it covered up saps the strength from your body and lessens your years. In verse 10 he mentions that immorality will cost you your wealth. Whether through blackmail, alimony, child support, or heavy spending on the lover, the cost of immorality is always high.

In verse 11 he points out that sexual immorality will cost you your health: whether it is emotional health from stress and worry or actual physical health from a sexually transmitted disease. In verses 12-13 he stresses the loss of peace of mind. Sexual immorality carries a lifetime of groans and regrets. And finally, in verse 14, he highlights the loss of your reputation. Oftentimes sexual immorality can lead to a loss of job, endorsements, and public trust, but it always brings great embarrassment to you and your whole family.

If you don’t believe God’s Word about the costs of sexual immorality, just ask someone who has done it. If you don’t believe immorality costs you strength, years, and peace of mind, just ask Bill Clinton. If you ever get a chance to see pictures of his face before the scandal and after the scandal, you will be shocked. He aged 10 years in 2 years. If you don’t believe immorality costs your wealth, just ask Elliot Spitzer. It cost him an extravagant amount of money to keep his affair going and to keep it hidden, and when it came out, it cost him his job. If you don’t think immorality costs your health, just ask Magic Johnson or anyone else who contracted HIV from illicit sexual relationships.

If you don’t think immorality costs your reputation, just ask Tiger Woods! He went from America’s golden boy to America’s gutter boy! Let us take heed of Solomon’s advice and steer clear of this highway to hell!

2.) Sex inside Marriage is a Freeway to Fulfillment (15-20)
After Solomon warns about the costs of sinful sexual behavior, he changes his strategy and moves to highlighting the beauty and blessings of proper sexual behavior. He is reaffirming that God designed sex for the bounds of the marriage covenant and advises that an active and engaging sex life is one of the best defenses against sexual immorality. It is surprising to some people, but the Bible actually employs erotic language to promote sexual pleasure, as long as it is in marriage.

In verse 15 he urges his son to drink running water from his own cistern and well. These highly erotic images obviously and appropriately refer to the female sexual organs. He is advising his son to find sexual fulfillment in his own wife rather than other women. Likewise, in verses 16-17, he appropriately refers to the male sexual organ as a spring or a fountain. Its contents should not be spread publically, but a man’s sexual vitality should be reserved for his wife in private. In verse 18 he pronounces a blessing on his son’s fountain that he might receive maximum pleasure and joy from the sexual relationship with his wife.

In verse 19 he further characterizes the wife of his youth in erotic terms. May her breasts satisfy you always! I’m just curious, what do you think the word “always” means here? Hmn, I’ll let you and your spouse figure that one out on your own!

In the Bible a woman’s breasts are always compared to deer because they are smooth, sleek, and gentle. Solomon wishes for his son to be intoxicated by his wife’s breasts and inebriated by her love. Lovemaking should leave one feel lightheaded. He summarizes his main point in verse 20. In light of all the delights of one’s wife, why should the son pursue sexual pleasure in the arms of another, especially considering all the dangers? (Longman 162)

3.) God is always watching us! (21-23)
Now that Solomon has warned us about the dangers and costs of having sex outside of marriage and has showed us the delights and blessings of sex within marriage, he saves his most compelling argument for last. No one should ever slide down the slippery slope of sexual sin because God is always watching. You may be able to fool your spouse and everyone else around you for a while, but you cannot fool God for a second. You may be able to cover it up from human eyes for a time, but God’s omniscient and omnipresent eyes see everything dirty thing you do.

God is watching, and therefore, the punishments of verses 23-24 are not a matter of chance, but certainty; the implication is that no matter what particular form the punishment might take, God will assure that it will happen. Sexual sin always comes back to bite. If we are not inebriated by the love of our spouse, we will be inebriated by our own stupidity, and it will result in death. Sex outside of marriage is a highway to hell, but sex within marriage is a freeway to fulfillment!

Speaking of highways and freeways, every time I drive through the southern United States, I find myself feeling annoyed by the constant barrage of billboards that clutter the natural beauty of the landscape along the Interstates. I guess I am becoming a true Vermonter! Nevertheless, I can’t help be amused by some of the signs.

Somewhere in Virginia, Tennessee, or Alabama, I saw a humongous billboard advertizing the largest adult book store in the state. It read: The Lion’s Den—Adult Book Store: Magazines, Videos, Toys, and Live Shows—Next Exit. I remember feeling surprised and thought to myself, “Wow, I thought I was in the Bible Belt!”

Just about the time I had lost faith in the south, I came across another huge billboard that read in big block letters: God is Watching You! Paid for by the Members of Some Baptist Church!

Yes, the message on the billboard is true! God is watching you! He is watching all of us! He is watching us all the time!

Let me conclude with a few simple admonitions: First, if you are not married, you should not be engaging in any sexual activity! Save yourself for marriage! It is worth it and you won’t regret it! Second, if you are married, please make sure that you are taking full advantage of the joys and pleasures of sex with your spouse! May you be satisfied always! Third, if you are married and are involved in some type of extramarital relationship, cut it off immediately. It really isn’t worth it!

And finally, if you are here this morning and you are living regrets from past sexual sins, confess them to God, make it right with the person you sinned against, and experience the forgiveness of Jesus Christ! Fornication and adultery are serious sin; they have high costs; but they are not unforgivable! Jesus died on the cross to offer us forgiveness and freedom from sexual immorality!

The Book of Proverbs clearly shows us the relationship between wisdom and sex. There is a highway to hell and a freeway to fulfillment! Which road are you on?

Doubting & Believing
John 20:24-30

In 1993 FBI agents conducted a raid of Southwood psychiatric hospital in San Diego, which was under investigation for medical insurance fraud. After hours of reviewing medical records, the agents had worked up an appetite. The agent in charge of the investigation called a nearby pizza parlor to order a quick dinner for his colleagues.

Agent: Hello. I would like to order 19 large pizzas and 67 cans of soda.

Pizza Man: And where would you like them delivered?

Agent: We’re over at the psychiatric hospital.

Pizza Man: The psychiatric hospital?

Agent: That’s right. I’m an FBI agent.

Pizza Man: You’re an FBI agent?

Agent: That’s correct. Just about everybody here is.

Pizza Man: And you’re at the psychiatric hospital?

Agent: That’s correct. And make sure you don’t go through the front doors. We have them locked. You will have to go around to the back to the service entrance to deliver the pizzas.

Pizza Man: And you say you’re all FBI agents?

Agent: That’s right. How soon can you have them here?

Pizza Man: And everyone at the psychiatric hospital is an FBI agent?

Agent: That’s right. We’ve been here all day and we’re starving.

Pizza Man: How are you going to pay for all of this?

Agent: I have my checkbook right here.

Pizza Man: And you’re all FBI agents?

Agent: That’s right. Everyone here is an FBI agent. Can you remember to bring the pizzas and sodas to the service entrance in the rear? We have the front doors locked.

Pizza Man: I don’t think so.

** Click **

If we would have been the pizza man, I think we would have been a little skeptical about the validity of that pizza order too. Doubt and skepticism are the subjects of today’s text.

Doubt Turns Into Belief (24-28)
Remember, it is still Easter evening. Jesus had risen from the dead early that morning and appeared to Mary Magdalene in the garden. Peter and John had seen the empty tomb and had told the other disciples. Later that evening Jesus appeared to them and gave them the Holy Spirit.

Now when Jesus appeared to the disciples, we know it was the Ten and not the Twelve. Judas had already betrayed Jesus and had committed suicide and now verse 24 tells us that Thomas was not with them either. The text doesn’t tell us why Thomas was not with the other disciples, but it may be as simple as Thomas was of the personality that liked to be alone while he mourned. When grieving, some people are comforted by the presence of others, while some prefer to be alone.

Since Thomas wasn’t there when Jesus had appeared to them, the other disciples told him everything that had happened. But as you can imagine, if someone told you that a friend of yours who had died rose from the dead a walked through a wall and spoke to them, you might be just a little skeptical as well.

Thomas responded to the disciples’ testimony with pessimistic skepticism. Even though he witnessed the raising of Lazarus, he could not conceive of the possibility of Jesus raising himself from the dead. Perhaps he thought the other disciples had given in to wishful thinking or had overactive imaginations.

Thomas declares his conditions for belief. He not only must see the resurrected Jesus and the scars from the nails, but he demands the tangible evidence of putting his fingers in the nail marks and his hand in the spear mark in Jesus’ side.

One week later on the following Sunday Jesus once again appeared to his disciples in the house behind locked doors. Again his resurrection body allowed him to pass right through the walls of the house. This miraculous appearance would have evoked fear from the disciples, especially from Thomas because he had not witnessed this before as the other disciples had. The greeting was intended to calm their fear.

Jesus’ rebuke shows that he hears his disciples even when he is not physically present. This rebuke blew Thomas’ doubt away. Since he saw Jesus with his eyes and heard him with his ears, he had no more need to touch him with his hands. Jesus’ rebuke redefined Thomas’ categories for belief. Jesus offered to have Thomas touch him, but it was no longer necessary. Sight itself proved sufficient.

Jesus’ words “stop doubting and believe” are even meant for future disciples who might doubt Jesus’ resurrection. This phrase serves as a rebuke to the modern world which has dismissed the resurrection.

There are many doubting Thomas’s’ in our world today who are skeptical about Christ’s resurrection. I would bet that there are even a few in the congregation this morning who have serious doubts about Christ being raised from the dead. They say, “I’ve never seen Jesus Christ, so how do I know if he really exists.” Or “I have never seen a resurrection, so how do I really know whether or not it can happen.” If you are a doubting Thomas, I challenge you with the same words Jesus used, “Stop doubting and believe!”

Even thought their may be a few who are struggling with skepticism about the existence or resurrection of Christ, I bet there are a lot more who like Thomas put conditions on our faith. Thomas said that he would not believe unless he put his finger in the nail whole in Jesus’ hand. Have you ever done that? Have you ever put a condition on your faith? Have you ever said, “I won’t believe unless you do this or that for me?”

This is utter foolishness! Sometimes Jesus doesn’t meet our conditions for faith. Then what? Would we really risk our souls for some silly deal we try to work out with God? I hope not! Jesus demands unconditional faith!

Carl Rogers, the U.S. psychologist, was 22 years old when he entered Union Theological Seminary in New York in 1924. While there, he participated in a seminar organized to explore religious doubts. Rogers later said of the group, “The majority of members…in thinking their way through questions they had raised, thought themselves right out of religious work. I was one.”

Faith without Sight (29)
Jesus’ mild rebuke to Thomas is intended to show the limitation of a faith in Jesus based on seeing him risen and to signal the transition from such faith to believing in the apostles’ testimony. Even Thomas should have believed his fellow disciples’ testimony rather than demanding further proof. Hence, Jesus’ blessing really pertains to John’s readers. Such a believing response to Jesus, in turn, is the pathway to eternal life, which transcends living merely in terms of physical presence and earthly relationships.

In Thomas’ case Jesus did give him tangible evidence of the resurrection, but he certainly doesn’t promise this to everyone. Here Jesus pronounces a blessing on all who put their faith in him even though they have never seen him. Why does Jesus emphasize faith over sight? Because he is a spiritual king who reigns over a spiritual kingdom! It cannot be seen with the eye or touched with the hand.

Harriet, the church gossip and self-appointed supervisor of the church’s morals, kept sticking her nose into other people’s business. Several residents were unappreciative of her activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused George, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his pickup truck parked all afternoon in front of the town’s only bar. She commented to George and others that everyone seeing it there would know that he was an alcoholic.

George, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and then just walked away. He said nothing. Later that evening, George quietly parked his pickup in front of Harriet’s house and left it there all night.

Sometimes sight is not the best sense to use in order to determine what is real and what is not. Our eyes cannot always determine truth. Something may look real and not be, like George and Harriet; but something else may not be seen at all but be very real, like the air you breathe. And it requires faith to turn doubts into action.

Let us keep believing, even though we don’t see!

Faith Produces Eternal Life (30-31)
Now John puts his whole gospel in perspective. The flow of thought is: Thos who have not seen the risen Christ and yet have believed are blessed; therefore this book has been composed, to the end that you may believe. John tells his readers that there were many more signs of Jesus he could have recorded, but these are sufficient to produce adequate faith.

The goal of this gospel is to produce saving faith. Saving faith in Jesus Christ is the only thing that produces eternal life. John is trying to evangelize his readers.

Now John is speaking directly to us. He knows that Jesus is the only one who can give us eternal life. The whole reason he wrote this gospel was that every generation who reads it would be persuaded that Jesus Christ is God and that we would have salvation through him.

As you have read this gospel and have heard it preached, have you become convinced that Jesus really is God? Are you convinced that he really is the Messiah? Are you convinced that he really died on the cross and rose on the third day for the forgiveness of our sins? Are you really convinced that he is the only way to have spiritual salvation and eternal life in heaven? Has John accomplished his purpose in your heart? I hope so!

John uses this story about Thomas to spur his readers on to faith in Jesus Christ. John knew that many of his readers would be skeptical about the resurrection of Jesus Christ because they did not personally witness it. Thomas’ transformation from skepticism to genuine faith becomes a model for transformation in every age. John climaxes the scene with Jesus’ blessing on those who have not seen him but have believed.

John records all of this to convince his readers that Jesus really is God and that eternal life comes through him. Let us follow in Thomas’ footsteps and stop doubting and start believing!

The Return of the King
John 12:12-19

The British writer J.R.R. Tolkien’s epic trilogy Lord of the Rings has regained popular since Peter Jackson put it into movie form. The third film of the trilogy, The Return of the King, won more Oscars than any other film released in 2004. The story chronicles a young hobbit’s journey to from the Shire to Mordor to destroy the evil ring of power and save all of middle earth. Along the way Frodo is joined by three other hobbits, a wizard, an elf, a dwarf, and two warriors.

One of the primary sub-plots of the third movie is Aragorn’s struggle to fulfill his destiny as he leads his outnumbered followers against the growing power of the Dark Lord Sauron and regain the throne of Gondor. By the end of the film Aragorn lead his followers to victory and paved the way for good to triumph over evil. Frodo destroyed the ring and Aragorn was restored to his rightful place as king; thus the title The Return of the King.

Since Tolkien was a Christian many believers has pointed out countless parallels in The Lord of the Rings and the Bible. There is even a professor at the seminary that I attend who teaches a class called J.R.R. Tolkien’s Apocalyptic Imagery. Whether it is my inherent skepticism or my lack of literary sense, I fail to see many of these parallel themes, but I do find the theme of Aragorn’s return to kingship strikingly similar to Jesus’ triumphal entry.

Through the narrative plot we learn exactly what of king Aragorn would become. Today’s text reveals what kind of king Jesus would be. Jesus comes out of private hiding and into the public scene through his triumphal entry into Jerusalem. Palm Sunday marks last week of his life, and through it, we learn exactly what kind of king Jesus is. Let’s listen to the story!

Jerusalem was swarming with people! The city’s population swelled to over ten times its normal size as people came from all around to celebrate the Passover, Israel’s most prominent holiday. People bumped into each other on the narrow streets and as they tried to make their way through the busy marketplace as each family frantically made preparations. Local merchants tried to rip off the foreigners. Mothers and daughters hovered around fires preparing food while husbands and sons chose a lamb to sacrifice at the temple. Speaking of lambs, some estimate that there may have been 100,000 more lambs than usual in the city. All of this to celebrate Passover as they remembered how God delivered their ancestors from slavery!

Jerusalem during the week of the Passover festival was like an American mall the week of Christmas; too many people in one place making preparations for the holiday. People were everywhere! Jerusalem was crazy during Passover!

This is the scene Jesus enters as he and his disciples left the village of Bethany and arrived in Jerusalem. Just a day earlier in the village of Bethany Mary anointed Jesus’ feet with expensive perfume, and now Jesus enters his beloved city for the last time before he would die.

The word of Jesus’ arrival must have traveled quickly. By the time he entered the outskirts of the city, thousands of people had gathered to welcome him. No doubt, most of the people who had gathered had heard about Jesus and his miracles. Those who had witnessed the raising of Lazarus in Bethany continued to spread the word throughout Jerusalem and the surrounding areas. Their witness contributed to the increase in Jesus’ popularity and prompted a huge crowd of people to go out and greet Jesus. They believed that he was the Messiah who had come to liberate Israel from Roman oppression. The people were excited; they thought that the days of suffering were over and that their nation was about to enter a golden age.

To show their belief that Jesus was the Messiah, they pulled palm branches off date trees and waved them as Jesus he entered the city. Palm branches had originally served as a symbol for righteousness, but they had become a popular symbol for Jewish nationalism. The Jews waved palm branches to show their patriotism the same way Americans fly red, white, and blue flags and put yellow ribbons on their cars. They expected Jesus to be a great political leader and military conqueror, and they were looking forward to the day he would lead a great revolt.

As the crowd proudly waved their palms, they shouted “Hosanna, Hosanna!” at the top of their lungs. This was a great Hebrew term that mean “save now.” The crowd was clamoring for Jesus to save them from Roman oppression right now. Then they quoted Psalm 118 by saying “Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Blessed is the King of Israel.” This was a messianic phrase that insinuated that Jesus was from the line of David. Their king had returned! They expected Jesus to conquer the same way David did.

But little did they know how sorely they would be disappointed. Jesus was indeed the king of Israel; in fact, he was the king of kings, but he was not the kind of king they were expecting. Jesus makes this clear in his choice of animal for his coronation. He did not choose a war horse to excite the patriotism of the crowd, but he ironically chose a donkey. In Jewish culture donkeys were symbols of peace and gentleness. Jesus chose to present himself as a king of peace and humility rather than pride and power.

Jesus’ riding a donkey was a fulfillment of Zechariah’s prophecy given hundreds of years earlier. In Zechariah 9:9 the Messiah is characterized as a leader of peace and gentleness. Even his disciples did not fully understand the significance of his riding a donkey instead of a war horse until after Jesus had been glorified.

When the Pharisees saw what was happening, they expressed their exacerbation with the hyperbolic remark “the whole world has gone after him.” It seemed as if their attempts to squelch Jesus’ ministry were backfiring; for in spite of their efforts, his popularity continued to grow.

Jesus’ triumphal entry was the climax of his public ministry. It was the pinnacle of his earthly popularity. But it was one of the most misunderstood events of his life. The crowd assumed that Jesus and his movement would serve their cause, but Jesus’ failure to satisfy their visions (religious, political, or social) leads to a cry for crucifixion a week later. They sang “Hosanna, Hosanna!” when they thought that Jesus was going to give them what they wanted, but the shouted “Crucify! Crucify!” when he broke their expectations.

It is so sad, but people treat Jesus the same way today! It is easy to get excited about Jesus when we think he is going to give us what we want, but it is just as easy to turn our backs on him when he disappoints us. We love to pray to Jesus when we or a loved one is sick, but if Jesus doesn’t heal, we don’t want to pray anymore. We are quick to serve Jesus when we think he supports our pet agendas, but we want nothing to do with him when we find out that his plans are different from our plans.

Contrary to popular belief, Jesus doesn’t meet all of our expectations! But Jesus isn’t the problem; it’s us! Has Jesus ever broken any of your expectations? Has he ever disappointed you? How did you respond?

Jesus’ actions at the triumphal entry show what kind of king he is and isn’t! The triumphal entry shows us Jesus’ kingship is not a political or military, but it is spiritual. Jesus is no one’s political advocate or military conqueror; he is a humble savior who gives us salvation for our souls. Let’s look at these metaphors for Jesus’ kingship more closely.

1.) Jesus is not a political king!
Just as Jesus did not serve the crowd’s political interests at the triumphal entry, he does not serve our political interests today. The crowd was convinced that Jesus would be a Messiah who would grant them political freedom from Rome, but Jesus was not interested political advocacy.

Many people today are just like this crowd of old. They try to make Jesus their political advocate and serve their political interests. I saw this clearly in this past election. I heard one politician proclaim from a podium, “If Jesus Christ was here today, he would be a democrat.” Republicans and Democrats alike try to use Jesus to promote their particular political point of view. Activists always want Jesus on their side of the agenda, but Jesus will not go.

When it comes to Jesus and politics we need to be careful. It is fine for us to have strong political views, but we should not identify Jesus with any political party. We don’t want to end up like the country pastor I heard about.

Years ago in a relatively small Green Mountain community, a few Democrats decided to make the highly irregular move of holding a Democratic meeting, and issued an invitation to the public. The town minister was a staunch Republican, but he had a Democrat in his congregation and decided to attend as an observer to find out what was going on. There being no other clergymen present he was asked if he would open the meeting with prayer.

He said that he was sorry, but he would have to decline. “To be frank,” he explained, “I’d rather the good Lord didn’t know I was here.”

Next time you flaunt Jesus as a Republican or a Democrat – think again – don’t cheapen the King of Kings that way. He didn’t come to choose sides, he came to die for the sins of Republicans, Democrats, Socialist, and Communists alike. He knows how to make the kingdoms of this world come into line with his Kingdom. Our privilege is simply to love him, and from that will flow our obedience for his desires, which will finally result in his Kingdom coming into our hearts and into the world. Jesus is not a political king, he is a spiritual king who died for us on the cross!

2.) Jesus is not our military king!
Jesus is not our political king, and neither is he our military king. I can still hear the crowd shouting “Hosanna, Hosanna, Save now, Save now!” They wanted Jesus to rally the troops, sharpen his sword, mount a war horse, and charge into Rome, but Jesus was not interested in the crowd’s push for military action. The imagery in Zechariah’s prophecy is framed as a conscious alternative to militaristic rule. True, the Jesus’ kingdom has military and political implications, for it must reflect the righteous and just character of the God who is king over all, but Jesus presents himself as a king of peace and gentleness.

3.) Jesus is our spiritual king!
Jesus is not our political advocate nor our military conqueror, but he is our spiritual savior. The triumphal entry marks the last week of Jesus’ life before he would be betrayed, brutalized, and led to the cross to die.

Jesus is not our military conqueror, but he is a king who did go to battle. It was not a battle of swords, spears, or chariots. It was not a war of tanks, ships, or missiles, but it was a spiritual war. The enemy was not Rome, Germany, or Iraq, but it was sin. It was not a war that could be won by power or might, but it was a war that could only be won through humility. Jesus didn’t carry a warriors sword, but he carried a criminals cross. He did not wear a crown of gold and jewels but a crown of thorns. His strategy was not to “divide and conquer”; it was to “suffer and die!”

Why did he do this? What kind of king would do this? Only the King of Kings and Lord of Lords would do this because he loves us so much. He came to earth to free sinners from God’s impending judgment and wrath. This is the only way our salvation could be won. He was the perfect sacrifice that has atoned for all of our sins past, present, and future.

This is why through faith in Jesus Christ we can have victory over sin and death. He is the only way to escape hell and live a satisfying life here on earth. This is why Jesus didn’t ride into Jerusalem on a war horse, but instead chose a lowly donkey. His kingdom is a kingdom of perfect peace where there is no more war or death or crying. His kingdom is eternal. It will live on for eternity. What a kingdom it will be? What a king we will serve?

The good news of the gospel is that we don’t have to wait until the end times to live in Christ’s kingdom. It has already begun and we can be a part of it right now. If you have not yet declared your allegiance to the king of kings, I plead with you to do it today. Don’t fall into the trap that so many others have fallen into. Don’t reduce Jesus to a political puppet or a military mirage. Know that he is our spiritual savior. He is our only hope at everlasting life and true peace. If you don’t know him, put your faith in him and accept him as your spiritual king today!

Wisdom & Work:
The Dangers of Laziness
(Proverbs)

Throughout the years many people have observed the close relationship between wisdom and work. Here are a few examples:

• When Pope John Paul XXIII was asked how many people work in the Vatican, he replied, “About half of them.”

• The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work—Robert Frost

• Some people would do anything to be able to do nothing—Frank Tyger

• A personnel manager rejected a job applicant because the firm was overstaffed. But the would-be employee persisted, “The little bit of work I’d do won’t even be noticed!”

• On an employee bulletin board: In case of fire, flee the building with the same reckless abandon that occurs each day at quitting time.

• I learned from experience that if there was something lacking it might turn up if I went after it, saved up for it, worked for it, but never if I just waited for it—Sam Levenson

• The best preparation for work is not thinking about work, talking about work, or studying for work: it is work—William Weld

• The harder you work the luckier you get—Gary Player

• Bear Bryant was a legend as a head football coach at the University of Alabama. One reporter sarcastically asked Bryant if it was true that he could walk on water. Bryant said, “Well, I won’t say I can or I can’t. But if I do, I do it before most people get up in the morning.”

Work is one of the chief marks of wisdom, and Israel’s teachers would never let their students forget that! Their doctrine of creation took seriously the human role in God’s care of the earth. They were no longer living in Eden, and therefore, if they were going to survive, it would be by the sweat of their brow. Tilling the soil, tending the vines, and taking care of the livestock were essential tasks for survival.

We must remember that God himself worked hard for six days creating the earth and rested on the seventh day. He has set seasons of sowing and harvest in the pages of our calendars, and if we ignore them it is to our own detriment. In a world where God has called all of us to work, it is indeed quite dangerous to be lazy. We typically don’t think of laziness as a sin, at least not on the same level as murder, sexual immorality, or even lying, but violating God’s creation order by refusing to work is like kicking Him right in the teeth! (Hubbard 155)

God’s attitude toward hard work and laziness are seen all over the Bible, but maybe nowhere more clearly than here in the book of Proverbs. The sheer quantity of Proverbs dealing with work and laziness is astounding. We will examine six of them together this morning and I have given you a host of others to read by yourself later. Even this is not a complete list.

Proverbs is simply intolerant of lazy people: they are considered the epitome of foolishness. On the other hand, hard work is considered as one of the greatest signs of wisdom. The central idea of each of these Proverbs is: Wise people work hard, but foolish people are lazy! So, let us consider some Proverbs!

Proverbs 14:23—This simple straightforward Proverb contrasts the results of actual hard work from mere talk about hard work. Talk is cheap, but actions bring profit. Hard work is guaranteed to bring at least some profit, but those who talk all the time and don’t do any work end up in poverty.

Are you the type person who really works or just talks about work? Do you actually study during your study hall or do you just sit around talking to your friends? Are you the one digging the ditch or standing around holding the shovel and talking to the guys?

Proverbs 12:11—This Proverb essentially says the same thing as the previous one, but this one situates lesson in agricultural terms. Hard work is practical and beneficial—it fills the stomach. On the contrary, chasing fantasies is neither practical nor beneficial—it just shows a lack of judgment.

Disney’s latest film, The Princess and the Frog, is a perfect example of this proverb. It is about a little girl named Tiana who grows up in New Orleans. The story begins with Tiana and her father making a pot of shrimp gumbo that is so good that the whole neighborhood comes out to have some. Tiana’s dad had a dream to open a restaurant but he died before he could make his dream real. The restaurant was going to be called Tiana’s Place and he already had the location picked out. Throughout the rest of the movie, Tiana adopts her father’s dream learns that there are no shortcuts to success.

For years, Disney has expressed in song that, “When you wish upon a star…anything your heart desires will come to you,” but this film shows that wishing for a dream is only half the battle, the other half requires hard work and determination. In other words, the real “magic” behind a wish is the effort you exert to make your dreams come true. Some people sit around wishing on stars while others put in the hard work. Which one are you!

Proverbs 10:4-5, 26—These Proverbs continue to build upon the contrasting results of hard work and laziness. Hard work brings wealth and laziness ends in poverty and deprivation. The farmer who gather’s his crops at harvest time is wise, but the one who sleeps when there is work to do is foolish. Just as vinegar to the teeth and smoke to the eyes causes irritation, frustration, and annoyance so it is for those who have to wait for a lazy person to get a job done.

Robert Orben notes a worthy strategy for showing up to work each day. He says, “Every morning I get up and look through Forbes list of the richest people in America. If I’m not there, I go to work.”

Proverbs 6:6-11—Here we begin to see some of the sarcastic quality of Proverbs. The sage instructs the sluggard to go and observe the ant and gain its wisdom. If an ant, one of the smallest and most insignificant of God’s creatures, does not have someone telling it what to do, and yet has enough sense to gather its food and store its provisions in a timely fashion, there is no excuse for a human being to be lazy.

While the ant is praised for being industrious and diligent, the lazy person is ridiculed for not getting out of bed. After the satire of the ant, the sage tries to motive the sluggard with taunting rhetorical questions. Then, the sage finishes with the familiar proverb—“a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands” which is set up to be an imaginary statement of the lazy person. They say that they just want a little nap but everyone knows that the little nap will turn into a long slumber to avoid work. These types of long naps make it impossible to sustain life.

Proverbs 24:30-34– This proverb is another satire on lazy people. Since lazy people are the epitome of foolishness, they deserve to be parodied. The short story begins with the sage walking by fields belonging to a sluggard farmer. The imagery describes fields that are in terrible shape: they were covered with thorns, there were weeds everywhere, and the stone wall was in ruins. All of this was obviously caused by neglect. As he stopped to think about this, he observed that laziness leads to poverty. Laziness drains all of a person resources and leaves them destitute like a victim of robbery.

Proverbs 26:13-16– This is my favorite proverb regarding laziness! It is probably my favorite because it is the most sarcastic one of all. It pictures a person who is so lazy that they actually claim that there was a lion in the street as an excuse for not doing any work. While there were lions in Palestine at this time, they were extremely rare and hardly posed a threat to anyone’s life. It would be like one of us here in Vermont saying, “Sorry honey, I can’t take out the trash because their might be a catamount outside in the yard.”

The new signs in the apartment building’s parking lot read: “Speed Limit—11 m.p.h.” When Ralph spotted the groundskeeper he asked, “How come 11 m.p.h.? Why not 10 m.p.h.” His reply, “Easier to paint.”

The second proverb makes fun of lazy people for spending too much time in bed. They are fixed in their bed like a door is fixed on its hinges—they may move, but they don’t go anywhere; they make no progress. By making fun of them, Solomon is trying to motivate the young people to avoid the pitfalls of laziness.

The third proverb points out the fact that lazy people destroy themselves with their destructive behavior. It is absolutely ridiculous to imagine someone so lazy that they cannot even move the food from their plate to their mouth. A person like this is not only lazy but also arrogant.

An example of imagination spurred on by outright lethargy is contained in the story of an old mountaineer and his wife who were sitting in front of the fireplace one evening just whiling away the time.

After a long silence, the wife said: “Jed, I think it’s raining. Get up and to outside and see.”

The old mountaineer continued to gaze into the fire for a second, sighed, then said, “Aw, Ma, why don’t we just call in the dog and see if he’s wet.”

All of these proverbs are essentially saying the same thing: Wise people work hard, but foolish people are lazy! So, let me ask you, are you wise or foolish? Are you willing to work for what you want or do you expect someone else to give it to you? Are you willing to start at the bottom and do a good job or do you want to sit around and wait for a hand out?

I don’t know about you, but it seems to me like we live in such a culture of entitlement today. So many people seem to believe that the world owes them something. Others keep waiting for some fantasy dream job to just drop in their lap. I hear so many people say, “Well, my family will take care of me” or “the government will take care of me.” I hear others say, “I just can’t find a job in this economy” but what they really mean is that they can’t find a job that is worthy of them. It is astounding that people are not willing to milk cows or scrub toilets. Are you willing to labor in a culture of lackadaisical laziness? God tells us that wise people work hard and fare well in the end!

Charles J. Sykes, author of the book Dumbing Down Our Kids: Why American Children Feel Good About Themselves But Can’t Read, Write, or Add, wrote an article which appeared in the San Diego Union Tribune on September 19, 1996 entitled “Some Rules Kid’s Won’t Learn in School.” Here they are:

• Rule 1: Life is not fair — get used to it!

• Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

• Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

• Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

• Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity.

• Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

• Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

• Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

• Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

• Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

• Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

Wisdom & Family:
Establishing a Godly Heritage
Proverbs

The family is an interesting institution. Humorist Robert Orbin once said, “Who can ever forget Winston Churchill’s immortal words: ‘We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills.’ It sounds exactly like our family vacation.” Someone else once said, “To prove his love for her, he swam the deepest river, crossed the widest desert and climbed the highest mountain. She divorced him. He was never home.”

At the annual family-reunion picnic, a young bride led her husband over to an old woman busily crocheting in a rocker. “Granny,” she said, touching the old woman’s hand affectionately, “this is my new husband.” The woman eyed him critically for a long moment, then asked abruptly, “Do you desire children?” Startled by her bluntness, the young man blushed and stammered, “Well-uh-yes, I do very much.” “Well,” she said, looking scornfully at the large tribe gathered around the six picnic tables, “try to control it!”

We chuckle about all of the problems families’ experience, and yet we instinctively believe what author Samuel Johnson wrote, “To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition, the end to which every enterprise and labor ends.” And we affirm the words of the great German poet Goethe when he said, “He is happiest, be he king or peasant, who finds peace in his home.” The family is not only the fundamental building block of all society, but it the place we find the deepest human source of joy and fulfillment.

What are some of the happiest days of your life? I bet most of them were spent with family! For some of us, it was the day we walked down the aisle and joined our spouse in holy matrimony with family all around. For others, it was when we held our children in our arms just after they were born. Still, others may remember a particular occasion or some special day, but there is a good chance that family was a part of it.

Just as family is often at the center of the happiest days of our lives, sometimes family is the cause of some of our most painful and miserable days. When a parent or family member abuses a child, they bear the ugly emotional scares in their soul for the rest of their lives. When a teenager rebels against his or her parents, the agony of disrespect haunts us for many years. When a husband or wife abandons their spouse for someone else, it leaves a gaping wound in their heart.

King Solomon knew that that family has the potential to give us the highest highs and the lowest lows of life. He experienced the pain of family conflict firsthand when his half-brother Absalom tried to murder their father David and when his other half-brother Adonijah rebelled against David and set himself up as king. You can read those stories in II Samuel and I Kings. Solomon also experienced the exhilaration of family when he met, fell in love with, courted, and married his first wife. You can read that story in the Song of Solomon.

Yes, Solomon knew that family can be both beautiful and difficult. That is why he recorded so many proverbs about family life. He knew that people needed great wisdom to navigate the land mines that destroy families and experience the indescribable joy that comes with a peaceful home. He shows us how to establish a godly heritage!

If you want to have the best family life possible, you need God’s wisdom. And God’s wisdom about family is found here in the Book of Proverbs. Let’s take a look at some!

Husbands & Wives
Before I explain these individual proverbs, I need to clarify something. You will notice that each of these wisdom sayings addresses the role of wives and sons. Before you assume that Solomon was some male chauvinist pig who only tells wives how they need to act and doesn’t care about daughters, you should know that the Book of Proverbs was primarily written for the young men of Israel. Therefore, he focuses on teaching the young men how to be a good son and what to look for when pursuing a wife.

If the book had been written for the young women of Israel, it certainly would have focused on the role of daughters and what to look for in a husband. Even though these proverbs are addressed to young men, they certainly apply to everyone, whether male or female. I am not in favor of gender neutrality in Bible translations, but I wholeheartedly believe that there proverbs are meant to be applied with gender reciprocity. So, I will apply them to genders!

Proverbs 12:4- I think this Proverb identifies the most important and overarching quality necessary for a good spouse. “Noble character” encompasses a lot of territory; virtues such as holiness, honesty, hard work, patience, peacefulness, kindness, compassion, and self-control. When a person marries someone with noble character, their spouse will bring them honor and dignity. Just as a crown around the head is a precious ornament that displays splendor, a spouse with noble character is something to be proud of.

On the other hand, a disgraceful spouse (that is someone who is lacking in moral strength and common sense) brings pain, disgrace, shame, and embarrassment. This type of spouse weakens the soul just as bone cancer weakens the body. He or she will wear you down to the point where you don’t want to do anything.

I have a good friend who was in a marriage just like this. His first wife who was the love of his life unexpectedly left him for a younger man and he was devastated. He isn’t the type of person who likes to be alone, so a couple of years trying to find someone else, he wound up settling for woman who he knew she had deplorable character and notorious reputation. She had already been married twice (the first time to his former best friend) and had taken all of their money.

In spite of my begging him not to, he married her. For the first six months or so she was on her best behavior, but then her true colors began to shine. She quit working, made extravagant purchases, and ran up credit card debt behind his back. One time not long after he had just bought her new living room furniture, she turned around and sold it on e-bay for a quarter of what it was worth. Then she went to Rent-a-Center and rented new furniture. Can you imagine getting home from work and finding out your spouse did something like this? Well, he got to the point where he would seldom go out in public with her because he was afraid of how she might embarrass him. I truly believe that the stress of his marriage was a major contributor to his untimely death! A disgraceful wife literally brought decay to his bones!

If you are not married yet, I beg you to make a commitment to yourself right now that you will only marry someone with noble character! If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t honest with you now, what makes you think that they will be once you are married? So many people get married for the wrong reasons. They say things like, “Well, she doesn’t work very hard, but at least she’s hot!” or “Well, he’s not very compassionate, but at least he has money!”

If you are already married, the nobler your character becomes, the better your relationship will be. Let Jesus Christ mold you into the person he wants you to be and you will bestow dignity and honor upon your spouse. Wives, be your husband’s crown! Husband’s be your wife’s tiara!

Proverbs 14:1- This proverb is a simple comparison between a wise and foolish wife. A wise wife builds her household, which means that she nurtures her family and causes it to flourish. A foolish woman’s actions, whether it be contentiousness, laziness, indiscretion, or immorality, destroy her household.

Men, be warned! Stay far away from a foolish woman! Women, be warned! Stay away from a foolish man! If you want to have a family that flourishes, it has to be built on a foundation of wisdom!

Proverbs 18:22- Even wise young men and women have difficulty discovering a good spouse. They may choose a guy or girl for the wrong reasons, and then discover that their choice was hasty. It is only with guidance from the Lord that a man or woman can find the right mate.

So, if you are looking for the right person to spend the rest of your life with, make sure that you are being led by God. It is easy to be blinded by beauty and persuaded by passion! Likewise, if you are already married and have a happy home, recognize that it is a gift from the Lord.

Proverbs 19:13-14- Just as a foolish child brings disaster upon his or her parents, a quarrelsome spouse is nagging, annoying, and irritating like a dripping faucet. Just as a constant dripping can cause damage to a house, a quarrelsome spouse can cause exasperation and permanent damage to family relationships. But nothing makes a person’s life happier than a prudent spouse, one who is wise, capable, and knows how to deal with people lovingly. Although a person may inherit property or wealth from parents, a prudent spouse is a gift from the Lord.

Consider yourself for a second! Are you a quarrelsome or prudent person? Are you a leaky faucet or a secure spout? And when you are considering a spouse, make sure you know the difference!

Proverbs 21:19- This proverb is similar to the preceding one in that it warns against entering into a relationship with a difficult person. The meaning here is quite simple: You are better off alone than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered person.

As you can see from this set of proverbs, there is a lot to think about before you get married and start building a family. You can see how when a marriage is built on a poor and foolish foundation, that it can cause many years of frustration, pain, and misery, but if the marriage is build on a wise and godly foundation, it can bring us more joy than we can imagine. Likewise, if you are already married and your relationship is rocky, there is still hope! When you apply God’s wisdom to your character and relationship, he begins to iron out the wrinkles and pave the way for a smoother and more joyful future.

Parents & Children
Proverbs 1:8-9- Solomon, speaking in behalf of God, gives an imperative command to sons and daughters to obey to their parents teaching and instruction. The translated here as “listen” is the Hebrew word “shema” which literally means to obey. Attentiveness to parental instruction reaps a reward. Just as a garland for the head or a gold chain around the neck enhances a person’s physical attractiveness and symbolizes success, a young person who obeys his or her parents’ commands honor and respect and has a greater chance of success.

How well have you followed your parent’s instruction? When we are young, we tend to think that our parents don’t know what they are talking about, but when we get older and have experienced more of life, we realize that they knew more than we thought they did. If you want people to honor and respect you, you have to be honorable and respectable; and we gain that from listening to our parents. I don’t care how old you are, it is never too late to obey your parents instruction. Will you do it and reap the rewards?

Proverbs 11:29- Anyone who brings trouble upon his or her family is a fool and will lose their inheritance. He or she may have expected to have wealth or servants, but they will be penniless and forced into servitude to survive.

When I read this proverb, I can help but think about one of my best childhood friends. We lived in a small village and he only lived eleven house up the road from me. We spent a lot of time together and got into a lot of trouble together, but he never grew out of it. When he was young, he seldom listen to his parents and often disrespected them. When he was in junior high, he would break into his dad’s mechanic shop and steal beer. When he was sixteen, he got his girlfriend pregnant. When was eighteen, he got arrested for assaulting a police officer. When he was nineteen, he beat his dad with a baseball bat so bad that the paramedics had to rush him to the ICU. He has spent much of his twenties behind bars.

A few years ago he showed up to my grandmother’s funeral drunk out of his mind. It was the first time I had seen him in years, and all he could do was laugh because he didn’t have a job or a place to live. His parents didn’t want him. The rest of his family didn’t want anything to do with him. And he hardly had any friends left. Indeed, his inheritance was spent!

Proverbs 20:20- This proverb is the counterpart to the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (Ex. 20:12) The Mosaic Law provided for the death penalty when a son was rebellious because the whole community was at risk and this proverb proposes a similar fate for a child who curses his or her parents. The “lamp” in this verse refers to physical life. A person who curses his or her father or mother exhibits such a destructive attitude that it could lead to an untimely death.

The friend that I just finished telling you about had a cousin who lived just six houses down the road from me. He was always in trouble when he was young, and even though his parents warned him about the dangers of drug use, he decided that he wasn’t going to listen to anyone. He died of a heroin overdose at the age of seventeen.

In his book A Spiritual Clinic, author J. Oswald Sanders recorded the classic observations about two Revolutionary War era families from New England, and the differing impacts each has had down through the generations. One family was the Max Juke family, and the other was the family of Jonathan Edwards, the well-known theologian and scholar who played such a prominent role in the early days of our nation.

Max Juke was a godless man who married a woman of like character. Among the known descendants, over 1,200 were studied: Three hundred and ten became vagrants; 440 lived a debauched lifestyle; 130 were sent to prison for an average of 13 years each, 7 of them for murder. There were over 100 alcoholics; 60 thieves; 190 prostitutes. Of the 20 who learned a trade, 10 of them learned the trade in prison. It cost the state about $1,500,000, and they made no contribution to society.

In about the same era Jonathan Edwards, a man of God, married a woman of like character. From this marriage came 300 clergymen, missionaries, and theological professors; over 100 college professors; over 100 attorneys, 30 of them judges; 60 physicians; over 60 authors; and 14 university presidents. There were many giants in American industry. Three became United States congressmen, and one became the vice president of the United States.

The impact of a godly husbands, wives, fathers, and mothers is enormous and can last for many generations. Those who follow the principles of Proverbs will be blessed by God with a godly heritage that will bring great reward to them, great good to the world, and great glory to God. We will all leave a family heritage, will it be like Max Juke or Jonathan Edwards?

The family is an interesting institution. Humorist Robert Orbin once said, “Who can ever forget Winston Churchill’s immortal words: ‘We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills.’ It sounds exactly like our family vacation.” Someone else once said,To prove his love for her, he swam the deepest river, crossed the widest desert and climbed the highest mountain. She divorced him. He was never home.”

At the annual family-reunion picnic, a young bride led her husband over to an old woman busily crocheting in a rocker. “Granny,” she said, touching the old woman’s hand affectionately, “this is my new husband.” The woman eyed him critically for a long moment, then asked abruptly, “Do you desire children?” Startled by her bluntness, the young man blushed and stammered, “Well-uh-yes, I do very much.” “Well,” she said, looking scornfully at the large tribe gathered around the six picnic tables, “try to control it!”

We chuckle about all of the problems families’ experience, and yet we instinctively believe what author Samuel Johnson wrote, “To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition, the end to which every enterprise and labor ends.” And we affirm the words of the great German poet Goethe when he said, “He is happiest, be he king or peasant, who finds peace in his home.” The family is not only the fundamental building block of all society, but it the place we find the deepest human source of joy and fulfillment.

What are some of the happiest days of your life? I bet most of them were spent with family! For some of us, it was the day we walked down the aisle and joined our spouse in holy matrimony with family all around. For others, it was when we held our children in our arms just after they were born. Still, others may remember a particular occasion or some special day, but there is a good chance that family was a part of it.

Just as family is often at the center of the happiest days of our lives, sometimes family is the cause of some of our most painful and miserable days. When a parent or family member abuses a child, they bear the ugly emotional scares in their soul for the rest of their lives. When a teenager rebels against his or her parents, the agony of disrespect haunts us for many years. When a husband or wife abandons their spouse for someone else, it leaves a gaping wound in their heart.

King Solomon knew that that family has the potential to give us the highest highs and the lowest lows of life. He experienced the pain of family conflict firsthand when his half-brother Absalom tried to murder their father David and when his other half-brother Adonijah rebelled against David and set himself up as king. You can read those stories in II Samuel and I Kings. Solomon also experienced the exhilaration of family when he met, fell in love with, courted, and married his first wife. You can read that story in the Song of Solomon.

Yes, Solomon knew that family can be both beautiful and difficult. That is why he recorded so many proverbs about family life. He knew that people needed great wisdom to navigate the land mines that destroy families and experience the indescribable joy that comes with a peaceful home. He shows us how to establish a godly heritage!

If you want to have the best family life possible, you need God’s wisdom. And God’s wisdom about family is found here in the Book of Proverbs. Let’s take a look at some!

Husbands & Wives

Before I explain these individual proverbs, I need to clarify something. You will notice that each of these wisdom sayings addresses the role of wives and sons. Before you assume that Solomon was some male chauvinist pig who only tells wives how they need to act and doesn’t care about daughters, you should know that the Book of Proverbs was primarily written for the young men of Israel. Therefore, he focuses on teaching the young men how to be a good son and what to look for when pursuing a wife.

If the book had been written for the young women of Israel, it certainly would have focused on the role of daughters and what to look for in a husband. Even though these proverbs are addressed to young men, they certainly apply to everyone, whether male or female. I am not in favor of gender neutrality in Bible translations, but I wholeheartedly believe that there proverbs are meant to be applied with gender reciprocity. So, I will apply them to genders!

Proverbs 12:4– I think this Proverb identifies the most important and overarching quality necessary for a good spouse. “Noble character” encompasses a lot of territory; virtues such as holiness, honesty, hard work, patience, peacefulness, kindness, compassion, and self-control. When a person marries someone with noble character, their spouse will bring them honor and dignity. Just as a crown around the head is a precious ornament that displays splendor, a spouse with noble character is something to be proud of.

On the other hand, a disgraceful spouse (that is someone who is lacking in moral strength and common sense) brings pain, disgrace, shame, and embarrassment. This type of spouse weakens the soul just as bone cancer weakens the body. He or she will wear you down to the point where you don’t want to do anything.

I have a good friend who was in a marriage just like this. His first wife who was the love of his life unexpectedly left him for a younger man and he was devastated. He isn’t the type of person who likes to be alone, so a couple of years trying to find someone else, he wound up settling for woman who he knew she had deplorable character and notorious reputation. She had already been married twice (the first time to his former best friend) and had taken all of their money.

In spite of my begging him not to, he married her. For the first six months or so she was on her best behavior, but then her true colors began to shine. She quit working, made extravagant purchases, and ran up credit card debt behind his back. One time not long after he had just bought her new living room furniture, she turned around and sold it on e-bay for a quarter of what it was worth. Then she went to Rent-a-Center and rented new furniture. Can you imagine getting home from work and finding out your spouse did something like this? Well, he got to the point where he would seldom go out in public with her because he was afraid of how she might embarrass him. I truly believe that the stress of his marriage was a major contributor to his untimely death! A disgraceful wife literally brought decay to his bones!

If you are not married yet, I beg you to make a commitment to yourself right now that you will only marry someone with noble character! If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t honest with you now, what makes you think that they will be once you are married? So many people get married for the wrong reasons. They say things like, “Well, she doesn’t work very hard, but at least she’s hot!” or “Well, he’s not very compassionate, but at least he has money!”

If you are already married, the nobler your character becomes, the better your relationship will be. Let Jesus Christ mold you into the person he wants you to be and you will bestow dignity and honor upon your spouse. Wives, be your husband’s crown! Husband’s be your wife’s tiara!

Proverbs 14:1– This proverb is a simple comparison between a wise and foolish wife. A wise wife builds her household, which means that she nurtures her family and causes it to flourish. A foolish woman’s actions, whether it be contentiousness, laziness, indiscretion, or immorality, destroy her household.

Men, be warned! Stay far away from a foolish woman! Women, be warned! Stay away from a foolish man! If you want to have a family that flourishes, it has to be built on a foundation of wisdom!

Proverbs 18:22– Even wise young men and women have difficulty discovering a good spouse. They may choose a guy or girl for the wrong reasons, and then discover that their choice was hasty. It is only with guidance from the Lord that a man or woman can find the right mate.

So, if you are looking for the right person to spend the rest of your life with, make sure that you are being led by God. It is easy to be blinded by beauty and persuaded by passion! Likewise, if you are already married and have a happy home, recognize that it is a gift from the Lord.

Proverbs 19:13-14– Just as a foolish child brings disaster upon his or her parents, a quarrelsome spouse is nagging, annoying, and irritating like a dripping faucet. Just as a constant dripping can cause damage to a house, a quarrelsome spouse can cause exasperation and permanent damage to family relationships. But nothing makes a person’s life happier than a prudent spouse, one who is wise, capable, and knows how to deal with people lovingly. Although a person may inherit property or wealth from parents, a prudent spouse is a gift from the Lord.

Consider yourself for a second! Are you a quarrelsome or prudent person? Are you a leaky faucet or a secure spout? And when you are considering a spouse, make sure you know the difference!

Proverbs 21:19– This proverb is similar to the preceding one in that it warns against entering into a relationship with a difficult person. The meaning here is quite simple: You are better off alone than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered person.

As you can see from this set of proverbs, there is a lot to think about before you get married and start building a family. You can see how when a marriage is built on a poor and foolish foundation, that it can cause many years of frustration, pain, and misery, but if the marriage is build on a wise and godly foundation, it can bring us more joy than we can imagine. Likewise, if you are already married and your relationship is rocky, there is still hope! When you apply God’s wisdom to your character and relationship, he begins to iron out the wrinkles and pave the way for a smoother and more joyful future.

Parents & Children

Proverbs 1:8-9– Solomon, speaking in behalf of God, gives an imperative command to sons and daughters to obey to their parents teaching and instruction. The translated here as “listen” is the Hebrew word “shema” which literally means to obey. Attentiveness to parental instruction reaps a reward. Just as a garland for the head or a gold chain around the neck enhances a person’s physical attractiveness and symbolizes success, a young person who obeys his or her parents’ commands honor and respect and has a greater chance of success.

How well have you followed your parent’s instruction? When we are young, we tend to think that our parents don’t know what they are talking about, but when we get older and have experienced more of life, we realize that they knew more than we thought they did. If you want people to honor and respect you, you have to be honorable and respectable; and we gain that from listening to our parents. I don’t care how old you are, it is never too late to obey your parents instruction. Will you do it and reap the rewards?

Proverbs 11:29– Anyone who brings trouble upon his or her family is a fool and will lose their inheritance. He or she may have expected to have wealth or servants, but they will be penniless and forced into servitude to survive.

When I read this proverb, I can help but think about one of my best childhood friends. We lived in a small village and he only lived eleven house up the road from me. We spent a lot of time together and got into a lot of trouble together, but he never grew out of it. When he was young, he seldom listen to his parents and often disrespected them. When he was in junior high, he would break into his dad’s mechanic shop and steal beer. When he was sixteen, he got his girlfriend pregnant. When was eighteen, he got arrested for assaulting a police officer. When he was nineteen, he beat his dad with a baseball bat so bad that the paramedics had to rush him to the ICU. He has spent much of his twenties behind bars.

A few years ago he showed up to my grandmother’s funeral drunk out of his mind. It was the first time I had seen him in years, and all he could do was laugh because he didn’t have a job or a place to live. His parents didn’t want him. The rest of his family didn’t want anything to do with him. And he hardly had any friends left. Indeed, his inheritance was spent!

Proverbs 20:20– This proverb is the counterpart to the fifth commandment: “Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (Ex. 20:12) The Mosaic Law provided for the death penalty when a son was rebellious because the whole community was at risk and this proverb proposes a similar fate for a child who curses his or her parents. The “lamp” in this verse refers to physical life. A person who curses his or her father or mother exhibits such a destructive attitude that it could lead to an untimely death.

The friend that I just finished telling you about had a cousin who lived just six houses down the road from me. He was always in trouble when he was young, and even though his parents warned him about the dangers of drug use, he decided that he wasn’t going to listen to anyone. He died of a heroin overdose at the age of seventeen.

Conclusion

In his book A Spiritual Clinic, author J. Oswald Sanders recorded the classic observations about two Revolutionary War era families from New England, and the differing impacts each has had down through the generations. One family was the Max Juke family, and the other was the family of Jonathan Edwards, the well-known theologian and scholar who played such a prominent role in the early days of our nation.

Max Juke was a godless man who married a woman of like character. Among the known descendants, over 1,200 were studied: Three hundred and ten became vagrants; 440 lived a debauched lifestyle; 130 were sent to prison for an average of 13 years each, 7 of them for murder. There were over 100 alcoholics; 60 thieves; 190 prostitutes. Of the 20 who learned a trade, 10 of them learned the trade in prison. It cost the state about $1,500,000, and they made no contribution to society.

In about the same era Jonathan Edwards, a man of God, married a woman of like character. From this marriage came 300 clergymen, missionaries, and theological professors; over 100 college professors; over 100 attorneys, 30 of them judges; 60 physicians; over 60 authors; and 14 university presidents. There were many giants in American industry. Three became United States congressmen, and one became the vice president of the United States.

The impact of a godly husbands, wives, fathers, and mothers is enormous and can last for many generations. Those who follow the principles of Proverbs will be blessed by God with a godly heritage that will bring great reward to them, great good to the world, and great glory to God. We will all leave a family heritage, will it be like Max Juke or Jonathan Edwards?